Buried in the article about cheating and the sleazy internet company Ashley Madison are some statistics about adultery. I will quote the pertinent paragraph from the article, “For the Thrill of the Affair: Why Married Women Cheat” by REBECCA JARVIS, KINGA JANIK and CANDACE SMITH (link here):
Some statistics show that 21 percent of married men have had an affair, compared to 15 percent of married woman, according to the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey. But that number for women has spiked in the last two decades, up nearly 40 percent.
Let those statistics sink in.
Those statistics mean more than one in five husbands admits to committing adultery. On the female side, that means more than one in seven wives admits to committing adultery (and that number is climbing precipitously).
I emphasize the word admits as anyone who has experienced adultery from the victim side knows admitting to the deed does not come easily for a cheater. So, it is pretty safe to say the actual percentage of cheating husbands and wives is much, much higher.
Think about that.
That’s a lot of marriages impacted by adultery–roughly two in five with just these low numbers!
And we are not even talking about the ripple effect of such sin as it impacts far more than just the primary couple–e.g. kids, parents, friends, etc.
God calls adultery evil for a reason (Deut. 22:22)!
When minimally one in five marriages are impacted by adultery (just taking the husband numbers), adultery is a social and moral pandemic!
Will the Church arise to address this pandemic?
Or will it continue to sell snake oil assurances that you can save or “affair proof” your marriage by being a “good” wife or a “good” husband?
How well did being “good” protect Job from calamity?
Yes, strive to be a respecting wife and a loving husband, but do not be deceived that such will protect your marriage from adultery. The only thing that does that is two hearts yielded to God choosing fidelity over rebellion each and every day of the marriage. It means two people who fight the lies of temptation with the truth of righteousness each hour of everyday in their own minds and hearts.
It takes character. It takes grit. And it takes standing on God’s truth knowing the Bible so that one has an answer to the demonic temptation and lies.
God is not confused upon the matter of adultery.
It is about time His Bride is no longer.
***On a happier note, yesterday (9/11) was the two month anniversary of launching “Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously.” To this date, we have had over 16,000 views with literally thousands of unique visitors coming to the blog from more than 35 different countries (38 including the USA at my last count to be exact). While numbers are not everything as any church planting pastor will tell you, it is encouraging to see that the word is getting out to many people. Thank you all for visiting, and I hope what you find here is edifying and healing words for your souls!