The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses.
Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard.
It all started to make sense.
I wasn’t imagining things.
The Other Man.
Had existed for months!
This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only a painful one. It is also a moment of validation. I felt relief. Pieces of the puzzle in my head started to make sense after months of madness.
And I know I am not alone in such an experience.
It is not a mercy to a faithful spouse to be left in the dark about the infidelity. This just adds to the suffering already present.
Being kept in the dark makes things all that more tortured and confusing for someone who already feels his or her soul being bludgeoned yet does not know exactly from where the blows are coming.