Still Work – Either Way

Divorcing a cheater is not the end of the healing process. It is NOT an “easy out.” Anyone who has gone through the experience could tell you as much. The divorce is often just the beginning. True, it might be easier to heal from abuse–I consider adultery and all the lies with it abuse–from a cheater divorced … Continue reading “Still Work – Either Way”

Isaiah 54 Promises

“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame.     Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.” -Isaiah 54:4a, NLT Can we claim the promises in this chapter even though they are about Israel? Yes. However, like Israel, we may not see their fulfillment in this life. It may be an end times … Continue reading “Isaiah 54 Promises”

Dating Married Nonsense

  She was the brash, rebellious type,     never content to stay at home. She is often in the streets and markets,     soliciting at every corner. She threw her arms around him and kissed him,     and with a brazen look she said … “Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning.     Let’s enjoy each other’s … Continue reading “Dating Married Nonsense”

Please, Do NOT drink Perel’s Potty Water! A DM Article Review.

She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. -Genesis 3:6b, NLT An article by Esther Perel … Continue reading “Please, Do NOT drink Perel’s Potty Water! A DM Article Review.”

“Married Too Young” Excuse

“We just married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The cheater … Continue reading ““Married Too Young” Excuse”

Yep, I am intolerant.

Yes, that is correct. My name is David, and I am intolerant. And I am not ashamed of this truth in the least. This intolerance presents no problems internally for me. In fact, I hope more people–and more pastors, especially–become as intolerant as I am. If only our churches were so intolerant! My hope is … Continue reading “Yep, I am intolerant.”

Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?

Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”

Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent

When choosing a spouse, I recommend NOT marrying someone who demonstrates ambivalence about the union. This is a lesson I learned from my first marriage ending. When you are with someone who is less than eager to “tie the knot,” it may spell problems down the road. Besides, you are worth being with someone who … Continue reading “Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent”

Predator Pastors

Priests form bands of robbers,     waiting in ambush for their victims. They murder travelers along the road to Shechem     and practice every kind of sin. -Hosea 6:9, NLT While writing this blog and receiving email, I have come across more than one scenario involving a married pastor having sex with his (or her) congregant. Then … Continue reading “Predator Pastors”