What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

Real Christians hate adultery!

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. -Romans 12:9, NLT Real Christians hate adultery because adultery is wrong! You would think this is a given among Christians and pastors, but faithful spouses–like myself–have discovered otherwise. This good hate is conspicuously absent. In fact,I … Continue reading “Real Christians hate adultery!”

Cheater-Speak: “I thought you would get angry.” Continued…

“I thought you would get angry. That is why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater (on why she lied) to faithful spouse This sort of statement is red meat to therapists and pastors who see their roles as rescuers. They hear something like this, and immediately jump to rescue the (cheating) “damsel in distress.” They are … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I thought you would get angry.” Continued…”

Cheaters, Beware!

“But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars–they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” -Revelations 21:8, NIV (emphasis mine) What if pastors led with this verse from Jesus to cheaters as opposed … Continue reading “Cheaters, Beware!”

God did not author this! She did.

Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. – James 1:13, NKJV God did not author this! She did. An unfortunate consequence of allowing human freedom is allowing humans to make sinful choices. Those choices belong to … Continue reading “God did not author this! She did.”

Bitterness or Injustice?

God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Bitterness or Injustice?”

Assumption is God Punishes Adultery

“That is why your daughters turn to prostitution,     and your daughters-in-law commit adultery. But why should I punish them     for their prostitution and adultery? For your men are doing the same thing,     sinning with whores and shrine prostitutes.” -Hosea 4:13b-14b, NLT Notice how this passage from Hosea assumes punishment of the sexually immoral by God? … Continue reading “Assumption is God Punishes Adultery”

If your pastor considers you in sin simply because you are angry…

So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables… His disciples remembered that it is written: “Zeal for your house will consume me.” John 2:15, 17, NIV If your pastor considers you in sin … Continue reading “If your pastor considers you in sin simply because you are angry…”

A Hint from “Lover, Lover” by Jerrod Niemann

I like this song. It is a catchy tune, and the fact that my (ex) wife hated the song–as I remember it–does nothing to diminish my enjoyment of this song. In fact, it probably increases it. Her dislike of the song around the time it came out makes we wonder how long she had been … Continue reading “A Hint from “Lover, Lover” by Jerrod Niemann”