God is our strength source.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah. -Psalm 46:1-3, KJV The Lord is … Continue reading “God is our strength source.”

Cheater-speak: “Come on! It wasn’t a big deal.”

“Come on! It wasn’t a big deal. That’s why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater When a cheater responds this way, they are engaging in gas-lighting. Let me explain: They know whatever happened IS a big deal to you. So, they say this to cover for themselves and invalidate your feelings. Also, the chances are good … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Come on! It wasn’t a big deal.””

Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].”

“Yes, I had a sexual relationship with him. But I am not divorcing you for that.” -Cheater A cheater from a religious background might say some drivel like this in a last ditch attempt to rescue her reputation. They know people–especially if their religion condemns it–generally frown upon adultery. So, they are trying to distract … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].””

What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

When One Spouse Loves Money…

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV When one spouse loves money, watch out! If you have ever done pre-marital counseling or read such materials, you will find they … Continue reading “When One Spouse Loves Money…”

Exposing Pagan Thinking On Marriage

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” -Mark 10:45, NIV   When a spouse is constantly calculating whether he or she has a “good deal” with their partner, they have missed the true heart of Christian marriage. … Continue reading “Exposing Pagan Thinking On Marriage”

Taking a Side is Sometimes Appropriate! Highpoint Church Fiasco Illustrates.

“It is okay to be sorry that a sin was committed. And at least two people were hurt by the ripple effect of the consequences of that sin. It is  okay to be sorry toward both people, to love both people, and not have to choose a side. … Our responsibility is that we must … Continue reading “Taking a Side is Sometimes Appropriate! Highpoint Church Fiasco Illustrates.”

In defense of men during this #metoo moment

I am a man. I am an ordained evangelical minister. And I am not ashamed of those facts! What troubles me about some reactions to the Andy Savage story is how they assume this is normal behavior of evangelical ministers or even young Christian men. It is not! We are not all predators. When I was … Continue reading “In defense of men during this #metoo moment”

Good men. Good women. They exist.

He replied again, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.” … “Yet I will preserve 7,000 others in Israel … Continue reading “Good men. Good women. They exist.”

When most vulnerable…

Cheaters seem to thrive on cheating when their spouse is most vulnerable. This is yet another demonic pattern that I have noticed. The vulnerable time might take multiple forms: -Maybe the faithful spouse is in a fight for her life dealing with breast cancer? -Maybe it is a faithful husband who just was fired from … Continue reading “When most vulnerable…”