Cheater-speak: “He means nothing to me.”

“[The Other Man/Woman] means nothing to me.” -Cheater It curious how cheaters are willing to throw away very meaningful things–at least, for some people–like their character and marriage vows for someone who they claim “means nothing” to them. My point is such statements coming from a cheater are lies. The cheater might believe them themselves. But … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “He means nothing to me.””

Stupid, Ignorant Things Christians Say

After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. So now take seven bulls and seven rams and go to my servant Job and sacrifice a … Continue reading “Stupid, Ignorant Things Christians Say”

Silence Helps Evil

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. -Ephesians 5:11, NIV I am several years removed from my divorce and all the sinful, destructive shenanigans my cheating ex pulled. In fact, Mrs. DM and I will be observing our 3rd wedding anniversary later this month. So, why keep talking … Continue reading “Silence Helps Evil”

Spiritual Suffering Best Addressed By Spiritual Counselors

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual Suffering Best Addressed By Spiritual Counselors”

Attempting to normalize cheating…

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters often use the same plays.  This is why I believe a dark spiritual element is evident in all cases of infidelity. The commonalities in behavior are too eerily alike to be just be coincidences. Some wicked force is coordinating this evil! One thing I remember my (now) … Continue reading “Attempting to normalize cheating…”

A Lifestyle of “I’m sorry.”

Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water. -Hebrews 10:22, KJV “Evil conscience” is translated “guilty” conscience in other translations of this verse. It speaks about a false sense of guilt. The conscience is evil … Continue reading “A Lifestyle of “I’m sorry.””

Pastors, please do not assume the affair is over!

Just because a cheater has agreed to see a Christian counselor or pastor to work on the marriage does not necessarily mean the cheater has ended the affair. It boggles my mind to think a cheater would attend Christian marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor while secretly continuing to cheat. But it happens! I know … Continue reading “Pastors, please do not assume the affair is over!”

Christmas Day Message – Talking About Angels

Below I am sharing my Christmas Day Message (recorded practice). It is only about ten minutes long, and in this message, I speak about the angels in the Christmas story including my own very angel story. Enjoy! Below is the picture mentioned in the sermon that was taken in my former bedroom. Notice the light orbs:

Abandoning Spouses CHOSE!

“You have to ask yourself: Why did she HAVE TO leave you?” – Cheater Apologist The pain of being abandoned is bad enough without the added insult of this mind game. A spouse who leaves another spouse is making a choice. To pose a question like this to the abandoned party is to obscure this fact … Continue reading “Abandoning Spouses CHOSE!”

A Cheater’s Brutal “Honesty”

“I got to be open and honest with you…” -Cheater This usually precedes some brutal statement about the “failings” of the faithful spouse as understood by the cheater. The openness and honest part of such a verbal barrage is usually limited to being open and clear in the cheater’s utter contempt and hatred for the … Continue reading “A Cheater’s Brutal “Honesty””