Marriage resurrection is a miracle, not normal outcome.

 ….but the angel said, “Don’t be alarmed. You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Look, this is where they laid his body.” -Mark 16:6, NLT Resurrection is unexpected. It is not how things normally go. This is in part why Jesus coming back from … Continue reading “Marriage resurrection is a miracle, not normal outcome.”

Too much and too little patience

You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man from your fellowship. -I  Corinthians 5:2, NLT In my experience, Christians often have too much patience for Cheaters and too little for their victims–i.e. faithful spouses. Cheaters are given chance after chance to repent. … Continue reading “Too much and too little patience”

Hosea’s special life calling

When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.”  – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea’s special life calling”

A resurrection, NOT a remodel!

43 Then Jesus shouted, “Lazarus, come out!” 44 And the dead man came out, his hands and feet bound in graveclothes, his face wrapped in a headcloth. Jesus told them, “Unwrap him and let him go!” John 11:43-44, NLT Marital infidelity kills marriages. It does this by striking the heart of this covenant relationship–namely, fidelity. Without such fidelity, trust is … Continue reading “A resurrection, NOT a remodel!”

“But for the grace of God, there go I, too!” Hogwash

“I won’t judge. But by the grace of God, there go I, too!” says Cheater apologist. This sounds so good and high minded. The person saying such things comes across as a super Christian. But this statement really just reveals ignorance on their part… Someone saying this is assuming much about cheating. They are treating … Continue reading ““But for the grace of God, there go I, too!” Hogwash”

Cheater waterworks

And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. -Malachi 2:13, NKJV Cheaters might cry over their infidelity. They might exhibit tears like these Cheaters in Malachi 2:13. BUT God is … Continue reading “Cheater waterworks”

Cheater Ingratitude

“She cheated on you? Well, did you take her for granted?” -Cruel, Cheater-Apologist Pastor What I find interesting about accusations about ingratitude is how they seem one-sided when a cheater is involved. The faithful spouse is fair game to be criticized for not showing enough gratitude for their spouse. This is doubly the case if … Continue reading “Cheater Ingratitude”

Detaching from their hypocritical ways

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.” -Matthew 23:23, NIV Healing from Religious Hypocrites A major learning curve for … Continue reading “Detaching from their hypocritical ways”

PSA: Your second marriage is not doomed!

 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV I am deeply troubled by how acceptable it is within Christian leadership to use fear about divorce against faithful spouses. If you are like me, you have heard the terrifying … Continue reading “PSA: Your second marriage is not doomed!”