If you are looking to you spouse…

Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “If you are looking to you spouse…”

God is our strength source.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah. -Psalm 46:1-3, KJV The Lord is … Continue reading “God is our strength source.”

Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV I am grateful for faithful spouses who opened … Continue reading “Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses”

Most resources I found…

While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage” at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, no cost–from the faithful … Continue reading “Most resources I found…”

Worst piece of advice given to me was …

“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…” -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am still … Continue reading “Worst piece of advice given to me was …”

What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.”

Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing

Then he ordered his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah. -Matthew 16:20, NIV This verse follows Peter’s confession of Jesus’ true identity. And much wisdom resides in this charge from Jesus. Sometimes keeping an important truth about our identity secret is wise. To use Clinical Pastoral Education language, one of my … Continue reading “Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing”

Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?

Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you? Since starting this blog about four years ago, I have experienced pressure to shut it down from time to time. People apparently find my core message here: “Taking Adultery Seriously” offensive. Who knew a spiritual leader teaching we should ACTUALLY live by the Ten Commandments would … Continue reading “Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?”