Silence Helps Evil

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. -Ephesians 5:11, NIV I am several years removed from my divorce and all the sinful, destructive shenanigans my cheating ex pulled. In fact, Mrs. DM and I will be observing our 3rd wedding anniversary later this month. So, why keep talking … Continue reading “Silence Helps Evil”

Can a pastor be restored after committing adultery?

Also, people outside the church must speak well of him so that he will not be disgraced and fall into the devil’s trap. -I Timothy 3:7, NLT Can a pastor be restored to ministry after committing adultery? This is my answer to the survey question posed back in 2012 with The National Association of Evangelicals … Continue reading “Can a pastor be restored after committing adultery?”

Adultery, Divorce, and My Situation in the EFCA

Recently, I came across an article written by my endorsing organization, The National Association of Evangelicals. This article is entitled, “Can Pastors be Restored After Adultery.” It was posted in May 2012. The article is more or less a report from a poll taken from evangelical leaders on the question posed as the post’s title: … Continue reading “Adultery, Divorce, and My Situation in the EFCA”

Spiritual Suffering Best Addressed By Spiritual Counselors

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual Suffering Best Addressed By Spiritual Counselors”

Movie Review: The Shack–Idolatry or Iconoclasm?

The Shack: Idolatry or Iconoclasm? Having read the book and personally met the author years ago, I was very interested in seeing how the book was translated into a movie. So, yesterday, I went to my local theater and watched it. I was not disappointed in what I saw. The movie was a well executed piece … Continue reading “Movie Review: The Shack–Idolatry or Iconoclasm?”

Resisting Revenge

Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. -Romans 12:19, NIV The struggle is real. All the crummy injustices faithful spouses experience including dealing with months–or even years!–of lies, loss time with kids, a damage reputation, legal … Continue reading “Resisting Revenge”

Divorce is partial soul amputation.

‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. -Matthew 19:5b-6a, NIV Like animal who gnaws off a limb to escape from a trap and certain death, a faithful spouse leaves part … Continue reading “Divorce is partial soul amputation.”

“I said it was a mistake!”

I said it was a mistake. What more do you want me to say?! -Cheater What drives me nuts with some Christians is how a cheater admitting to “a mistake” is enough for them. They take the bait, then they turn on the faithful spouse to figure out what he or she did or didn’t … Continue reading ““I said it was a mistake!””

But what about the damage to their reputation?!

“Keep it as quiet as possible. Just think about the damage done to other relationships if you tell them she cheated on you [aka the truth].” -Standard (Awful) Advice Such concern for the damage of relationships is too in coming late. Actions reveal character. Character often shapes reputation. If a cheater wanted a good reputation, … Continue reading “But what about the damage to their reputation?!”

Never speak of “it” again? But God did!

  “Have you seen what faithless Israel has done? She has gone up on every high hill and under every spreading tree and has committed adultery there.” -Jeremiah 3:6b, NIV   Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband. -Ezekiel 16:32, NLT   They are unfaithful to the … Continue reading “Never speak of “it” again? But God did!”