Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV I am grateful for faithful spouses who opened … Continue reading “Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses”

Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition

Rachael Denhollander did an interview with Christianity Today.  Her responses to how coming out as a sexual assault victim of Larry Nassar, the disgraced gymnastics doctor and convicted predator, has impacted her in her Christian community are profound. I did a whole blog post on my thoughts in dialogue with her responses in that interview (click … Continue reading “Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition”

More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…

Recently, the testimony of Rachel Denhollander caught fire in the Christian community for her bringing her faith to bear in the trial of her former abuser, Larry Nassar. I shared a link to the transcripts of her testimony as I found her statements clear and well-articulated explanations of forgiveness and justice in the light of … Continue reading “More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…”

Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…

Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long … Continue reading “Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…”

What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!

In the sentencing hearing for abuser Larry Nasser, Rachel Denhollander–one of his victims when she was a gymnast on Team USA with whom Nasser was the doctor–made a powerful statement. WARNING: It is graphic at parts. Here is a video of her testimony: CNN transcribed this interview in total (link here). In her testimony, she … Continue reading “Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!”

Even God Requires Repentance First!

“If you want to come back, O Israel,     you must really come back to me. You must get rid of your stinking sin paraphernalia     and not wander away from me anymore.” -Jeremiah 4:1 (from 1-2 block), THE MESSAGE This verse comes on the heals of the chapter where God declares His divorce of Israel over … Continue reading “Even God Requires Repentance First!”

Care about the healing of victims? Preach perpetrator repentance then!

God is an honest judge. He is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NLT Pastors, do you really care about the healing of infidelity victims? If so, then please preach that the perpetrators need to repent. One of the many things that bothers me about Christians responding to infidelity situations is how they seem unconcern … Continue reading “Care about the healing of victims? Preach perpetrator repentance then!”

Seeking Forgiveness or Accountability Avoidance?

Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Seeking Forgiveness or Accountability Avoidance?”

Cheater, focus on YOUR part!

“She will just keep this hanging over my head. I don’t think she will ever really forgive me.” -Cheater to pastor Cheater, focus on YOUR own part! A wise pastor and Christian counselor will not take this bait to bash the faithful spouse. Instead, he or she will remind the cheater that he only controls … Continue reading “Cheater, focus on YOUR part!”