“…men are often lured into affairs because they are sexually deprived at home. A man who strays is usually given total blame for his affair, but in many cases he is the victim of temptation that his wife helped bring upon him.” -Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D. in Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The … Continue reading ““Love & Respect” by Dr. Eggerichs promotes “The Shared Responsibility Lie””
Category: Sin
Some ways to help a faithful spouse
A Christian brother comes over one night. He crumples onto your couch tears overflowing. Through his heaving sobs, you learn his wife has left him and is having sex with another man. The hollow and desperate look in his eyes tears at your heart. What can you do? I will start with the negative first. These dangerous responses … Continue reading “Some ways to help a faithful spouse”
The tortuous dance to divorce of a cheater
There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. -Proverbs 12:18, KJV Cheaters are often very cruel to their spouses. Besides the whole soul rape part, these characters are known to attend couples therapy or pastoral Care sessions only to beat up upon the faithful spouse emotionally. Cheating on the … Continue reading “The tortuous dance to divorce of a cheater”
The “justifying” lie must be torn down!
4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…. -2 Corinthians 10:4-5, KJV Some of the stories … Continue reading “The “justifying” lie must be torn down!”
Shamefully Late: Ravi Zacharias defrocked by denomination posthumously
Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. -James 3:1, NIV In an article in Christianity Today, we learned that Ravi Zacharias’ denomination (Christian and Missionary Alliance) has taken the unusual step of removing his ordination after his death (link here). This is reportedly … Continue reading “Shamefully Late: Ravi Zacharias defrocked by denomination posthumously”
Even Jesus Did Not Force Reconciliation!
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!” -Matthew 23:37, KJV Even Jesus did not force reconciliation of His Bride! This is what this … Continue reading “Even Jesus Did Not Force Reconciliation!”
Sometimes it is not fixable.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes the marriage is not fixable, and it comes time to focus on a new thing. A cheater who refuses to repent makes a marriage not fixable. It would be unwise to reinvest in a … Continue reading “Sometimes it is not fixable.”
We still have cemeteries.
Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned…. -Romans 5:12, NIV We still have cemeteries. In fact, I have one less than a mile from my house. It is a pretty full one at that. We still … Continue reading “We still have cemeteries.”
Choices and Cheaters
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Cheater sympathizers often miss the real choices cheaters make. They … Continue reading “Choices and Cheaters”
Dear DM, I recently had a conversation…
Dear Divorce Minister, Recently I had a chat with an acquaintance and she gave me some advice that excuses the cheater’s behaviour. I work in social justice and one of the shared values I thought myself and my ex husband had is advocating for women’s health. I was quite excited when he wrote a PhD on … Continue reading “Dear DM, I recently had a conversation…”