Pastors, we–faithful spouses–are past talking about marriage enrichment issues. One of the many annoying things about talking to some Christians about infidelity is how they seem incapable of basic spiritual care triage. The serious nature of the situation does not register with some. They do not understand how working on “communication skills” is not going … Continue reading “PSA: Pastors, we are past marriage enrichment ideas.”
Category: Sin
Skeptical of Miracle Christian Cheater Transformation Stories
26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. -Hebrews 10:26-27, KJV When professing Christians choose to cheat, these verses highlight the serious nature of such … Continue reading “Skeptical of Miracle Christian Cheater Transformation Stories”
Could have chosen otherwise!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, KJV Stop. Stop beating yourself up over your cheater’s sins. I know it is tempting to keep analyzing … Continue reading “Could have chosen otherwise!”
Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” does NOT justify cheating!
Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat! What astounds me is how some pastors do not think this one through very well. They “joke” about their wives “putting up” with them even in the presence of a divorced pastor whose wife cheated on him. They either fail to see how insensitive that … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” does NOT justify cheating!”
Pro-Tip: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist for help!
Pro-Tip: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist* for help fixing the marriage! This is a hard learned lesson for me. It did not go well when I did not live by this tip. I will leave it at that. The problems with using your cheater’s individual therapist for the marriage issues are multifold: 1. … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist for help!”
Cut the Connection
When at a conference following the fresh official end to my first marriage, I was given some solid advice about my future. Like two ships untying their lines from a dock, I was told to let my ex-wife sail her ship away, and I was to do the same. It was about cutting the cord … Continue reading “Cut the Connection”
God’s Deal-Breakers: Eschatological Lessons on Covenant
But they were broken off because of unbelief, and you stand by faith. Do not be arrogant, but tremble. For if God did not spare the natural branches, he will not spare you either. -Romans 11:20b-21, NIV An often used argument against faithful spouses choosing divorce from a cheater is the analogy to God’s covenant with his people. … Continue reading “God’s Deal-Breakers: Eschatological Lessons on Covenant”
Encouragement: Good men and good women DO exist!
He replied again, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.” … “Yet I will preserve 7,000 others in Israel … Continue reading “Encouragement: Good men and good women DO exist!”
…and then the cheating is discovered.
…and be sure your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23b, KJV All those emotionally cold counseling meetings. All the finger-pointing and fault-finding sessions. All the anger over what seemed petty yet was treated as “life and death” marriage problems. …then the cheating is uncovered, and it all starts to make sense. While it … Continue reading “…and then the cheating is discovered.”
Re: Comment on “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story”
I recently received a comment responding to my Christmas post where I share divorce lessons from the Christmas story (click here to read what I wrote). It is a thoughtful comment that I believe deserves some engagement from my end. So, I decided to pull it out and share my thoughts in response to it. … Continue reading “Re: Comment on “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story””