Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. -John 14:27, KJV “Let NOT your heart be troubled…” (Emphasis mine) This is a command from Jesus. A command that implies we have a … Continue reading ““Let not your heart be troubled”–God’s Command”
Category: Sin
Only 27 Percent of Protestant Pastors Believe “Adultery” Permanently Disqualifying!
Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…. -I Timothy 3:2, NIV (Emphasis mine) LifeWay Research just published a study on Protestant pastor views on restoration of pastors after committing “adultery.” The results are not so surprising to me. Only 27% are willing to … Continue reading “Only 27 Percent of Protestant Pastors Believe “Adultery” Permanently Disqualifying!”
Just because they say so…
Public Service Announcement: Just because a cheater says so… …does not make it so! Remember that you are hearing words coming from a proven liar. That is what all cheaters are: proven liars. When they say things about you and your marriage, you have to discount that with this fact about their deficient character. They … Continue reading “Just because they say so…”
Don’t stop! Keep going!
As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” -Romans 10:11, NIV This evening I had the privilege of helping my daughter get to sleep. She wanted me to lie in bed with her for a little while. So, I did. As I lay there, I was struck about how … Continue reading “Don’t stop! Keep going!”
Cheater-Speak: “I had to….”
“I had to find someone else, because you never were interested in sex with me,” says the cheater. “I had to cheat with him, because that was the only way I could get your attention,” says the cheater. “I had to ____ (fill in the blank),” says the cheater. The “I had to …” lie … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I had to….””
On envying cheater prosperity
There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: the righteous who get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked who get what the righteous deserve. This too, I say, is meaningless. -Ecclesiastes 8:14, NIV The observation of the wicked prospering while the righteous are punished is not a new one. That is what this … Continue reading “On envying cheater prosperity”
Expect to lose some “friends”
You know that everyone in the province of Asia has deserted me, including Phygelus and Hermogenes. -2 Timothy 1:15, NIV Not all your “friends” before the infidelity discovery will remain your friends afterwards. This is a hard truth to accept. Yet it is a reality best accepted to avoid further heartache. I think this is one of … Continue reading “Expect to lose some “friends””
Cheater-Speak: “Telling him (about the affair) would be selfish.”
“Telling him (about the affair) would be selfish. That would ruin our marriage.” – Cheater What a twisted lie people tell themselves and others! Think if we applied this lie to a different situation: Someone embezzles tens of thousands from your friend’s retirement account. They are a “good” criminal and know how to hide … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Telling him (about the affair) would be selfish.””
Clueless Christian: What did you learn from that?
“I’ll tell you by what authority I do these things if you answer one question,” Jesus replied. -Mark 11:29, NLT “What did you learn about yourself from your divorce?” – Clueless Christian (asking Faithful Spouse) Context matters. I have no problem asking honest questions coming from a humble or genuine place of interest. What I … Continue reading “Clueless Christian: What did you learn from that?”
Not Blaming: Who does it benefit?
Not Blaming: Who does it benefit? I would argue refusing to assign blame in a situation with marital infidelity “benefits” the cheater. They get to be treated as if what happened was either a shared problem or an unfortunate event (both lies, by the way). In other words, they get to avoid taking responsibility for … Continue reading “Not Blaming: Who does it benefit?”