Still Work – Either Way

Divorcing a cheater is not the end of the healing process. It is NOT an “easy out.” Anyone who has gone through the experience could tell you as much. The divorce is often just the beginning. True, it might be easier to heal from abuse–I consider adultery and all the lies with it abuse–from a cheater divorced … Continue reading “Still Work – Either Way”

“Married Too Young” Excuse

“We just married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The cheater … Continue reading ““Married Too Young” Excuse”

Yep, I am intolerant.

Yes, that is correct. My name is David, and I am intolerant. And I am not ashamed of this truth in the least. This intolerance presents no problems internally for me. In fact, I hope more people–and more pastors, especially–become as intolerant as I am. If only our churches were so intolerant! My hope is … Continue reading “Yep, I am intolerant.”

Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?

Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”

Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?

Dear Divorce Minister, My husband choose to continue his affair, which has resulted in me filling for divorce. He did not show any true remorse just used the word sorry. His actions in continuing to see his AP told me otherwise. When the divorce is final he is then not committing a sin anymore. What … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?”

Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage

And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage”

Dear DM, How would you have responded?

Hey DM, I am interested in what you will say to Christian friends that they are praying for you and the ex to remarry. Said “friend” knows we are divorced but states God can work on ex and then “family” can be back together. Now this is all stated under their guise of caring for … Continue reading “Dear DM, How would you have responded?”

If you think remarriage is forbidden for faithful spouses…

If you think remarriage for faithful spouses is forbidden… …THEN THIS BLOG IS NOT FOR YOU!!! As I read Scripture, faithful spouses are free to remarry after divorce without shame. This includes remarrying while the cheater is still alive. Faithful spouses are free from the marital bonds severed via a godly divorce. But if the husband … Continue reading “If you think remarriage is forbidden for faithful spouses…”

Trust God, Fear NOT “Man”

Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “Trust God, Fear NOT “Man””

Taking Adultery Seriously!

“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin.  How so?  God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “Taking Adultery Seriously!”