But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “When the other spouse is just “done””
Category: Theology of divorce
Weight and Money
When a husband is unemployed, his lack of funds is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. When a wife is overweight, her weight is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. On Weight and Money Rejections What bothers me greatly … Continue reading “Weight and Money”
How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…”
Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Pastors need to say it aloud!
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors need to say it aloud!”
Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.
Dear Divorce Minister, I’m not articulate so I’ll try to explain that I wish I had found your website sooner. My husband has been a serial cheater for 25 years, I just didn’t know it. How stupid can a woman be? For many reasons, I wish I had found your website sooner. You see, I’ve … Continue reading “Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.”
Giants? What is God then?
“The land we traveled through and explored will devour anyone who goes to live there. All the people we saw were huge. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak.” -Number 13:32b-33a, NLT Choose to trust God or give into giant-fear? When going through divorce, many issues look insurmountable. We can see the loses. … Continue reading “Giants? What is God then?”
Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin
In “How Willow Creek exposed our sins,” Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin suggest the mess at Willow Creek Church is a symptom of a much bigger problem in American evangelicalism. Strobel diagnoses the problem Willow Creek exposes as: The fundamental ailment of the evangelical church today is toxic power. Toxic power is anchored in prideful … Continue reading “Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin”
Criticisms say a lot…
In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. -Proverbs 10:19, NKJV People’s criticisms say a lot… …but not necessarily anything about the one criticized. This is a lesson impressed upon me during my formal training in clinical pastoral care. It is an important lesson to remember … Continue reading “Criticisms say a lot…”
Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!
So until I come, be diligent in devouring the Word of God, be faithful in prayer, and in teaching the believers. -I Timothy 4:13, TPT Too much is at stake to just sail off into my blessed sunset! I wish more faithful spouse pastors had not simply sailed off into their sunset prior to my … Continue reading “Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!”