For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. – 2 Cor. 10:3-5, NIV
Yesterday, I was coming home from work listening to the radio. A popular Twin Cities radio station was taking calls from people who knew affair partners were present at the wedding of their illicit lovers. A caller called into the station and explained she was the one who had an affair partner present at her own wedding! The hosts asked her if she still was having “hot fudge sundaes” with said coworker after being married, and the caller confirmed she had. She quickly followed it up with comments as in that it did not mean anything. It was just a fling.
While this is a secular venue, I am still angered and sickened by the lies and lack of shame over adultery. However, I will take this opportunity to use it as a teaching example here. Did you notice the minimization and lies the caller used to justify her adulteries?
A good way to ensure adultery continues and actually grows in society is to give into such lies. To leave them unchallenged. It was not just a fling. She raped her husband’s soul (see Adultery is Soul Rape). And she slept with another woman’s husband. Do you think that woman sees sexual relationships with her husband as “nothing”?
This post is entitled “Demolishing Demonic Defenses” because I am encouraging all to pay attention to the lies people tell themselves to excuse adultery. Awareness is the first step to addressing the devastation wrought by such lies.
We can no longer afford to minimize sin. We no longer can bless people leaving their “unhappy” marriages to commit adultery if we care about a society free of such traumatizing behavior and righteousness. A spouse does not drive another spouse to cheat. A cheater cheats because a cheater chose to cheat, period. If we actually cared about the cheater, we would call him/her to repentance and not sanction sin.
And I put the terms “Demonic Defenses” in the today’s title because these lies are all so common and such destructive commonality is a sure-fire give away as to origins–i.e. demonic (see Adultery Is Downright Demonic).
You have a choice:
Do I accept any part of the justifying lies or do I speak truth to myself and others? Will I accept the lies use to minimize adultery or will I call it for what it is–i.e. soul rape? Will I play pretzel gymnastics owning “my responsibility for the adulterous relationship” or will I refuse to accept any part of this demonic lie?
Until faithful spouses and godly people refuse to give a quarter to the lies used to minimize and “justify” infidelity, adultery will continue to happen with increasing frequency and with even more heartbreaking destruction.
This is Satan’s scheme for our destruction. So, now we can choose to join the Apostle Paul in saying that we are, indeed, “not ignorant of his devices” (2 Cor. 2:11, KJV).