Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites.
-2 Samuel 12:9, NIV
Thou shalt not commit adultery.
-Exodus 20:14, KJV
The Prophet Nathan is confronting King David over his sin in the words recorded in 2 Samuel 12:9. He clearly does not view King David is merely lost or “wayward.”
Rather, Nathan calls out King David to account for doing what he knew better NOT to do!
Committing adultery is an active act of defiance. The cheater not only is harming the faithful spouse, the cheater is despising God’s word similar to what King David did.
A cheater does not need coddling and “understanding” but rather a rebuke a la Prophet Nathan-style.
I just do not buy the philosophy that says cheaters fail to grasp what they did was wrong. If that were true, then why do cheaters always seem to be hiding and lying about their cheating behavior.
Plus, most cheaters have heard of the Ten Commandments, which have one commandment devoted to the prohibition of adultery.
They know it is wrong! However, they are trying to get away with it just as King David tried to get away with stealing and sexually assaulting, IMO, Bathsheba.
The most loving thing to do in such situations is NOT to go along with the cheater’s charade but rather call them to account for despising God’s word in choosing to lie and cheat.
God loved King David enough to confront him through Nathan. It was not like what happened was in the morally grey area. King David does not deny what he did was evil because it was!