Super Stupid and Divisive

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother…. -Genesis 2:24a, NKJV Having a father-in-law (FIL) tell his son-in-law how he is “failing” as a husband and man–in general–is incredibly stupid and divisive on the part of the FIL. Something like that happened in my situation as I remember it. I look back on that … Continue reading “Super Stupid and Divisive”

Beauty for Ashes…Three Years And Counting!

Instead of your shame     you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace     you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land,     and everlasting joy will be yours. -Isaiah 61:7, NIV   Today marks three years since I stood at my in-laws’ porch and exchanged marriage … Continue reading “Beauty for Ashes…Three Years And Counting!”

Cheating Is Ultimate Entitlement Behavior!

If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV Ironically, cheaters have been known to act as if the faithful spouse is the selfish one in the marriage. They lack the insight … Continue reading “Cheating Is Ultimate Entitlement Behavior!”

I count three…

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.” -Job 31:1, NLT Looking back upon old emails around the time of my marriage’s demise, I am struck by how little was made of–what I now consider–my (now ex) wife’s emotionally inappropriate relationships with other men. And it was not … Continue reading “I count three…”

Addressing Anti-Clerical Sentiments

Elders who do their work well should be respected and paid well, especially those who work hard at both preaching and teaching. -I Timothy 5:17, NLT But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to … Continue reading “Addressing Anti-Clerical Sentiments”

Cheater-speak: “He means nothing to me.”

“[The Other Man/Woman] means nothing to me.” -Cheater It curious how cheaters are willing to throw away very meaningful things–at least, for some people–like their character and marriage vows for someone who they claim “means nothing” to them. My point is such statements coming from a cheater are lies. The cheater might believe them themselves. But … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “He means nothing to me.””

On Dating: Be willing to walk away!

…I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. … For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. -Philippians 4:11b, 13, NLT I am a firm believer in not off-sourcing personal responsibility for important life decisions. Get advice, sure. But do not let someone decide your life for you. When pastors … Continue reading “On Dating: Be willing to walk away!”

God, not you, is the Source of Strength!

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah. -Psalm 46:1-3, KJV Let … Continue reading “God, not you, is the Source of Strength!”

The Struggle to Let Go

Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. -John 12:24, NIV Letting go of a marriage ravaged by infidelity is hard. I think it is made doubly so–unfortunately–in Christian communities because of all … Continue reading “The Struggle to Let Go”

Mailbag: He blames me for all of it

Waiting on God wrote, I myself am a pastors wife for the past 17 years, and my husband was very love by the congregation because he was so loving to everyone. But little did they know that he was bipolar and was abusive and jealous on me. I have been faithful for the whole 28 … Continue reading “Mailbag: He blames me for all of it”