God is not blind to the injustices you are suffering!

9 The Lord is a shelter for the oppressed,     a refuge in times of trouble. 10 Those who know your name trust in you,     for you, O Lord, do not abandon those who search for you. -Psalm 9:9-10, NLT Part of the struggle following infidelity discovery is how the injustice sometimes feels unseen or devalued by outsiders. Faithful spouses are … Continue reading “God is not blind to the injustices you are suffering!”

God is worthy of our trust!

5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,     is God in his holy dwelling. 6 God sets the lonely in families,     he leads out the prisoners with singing;     but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. -Psalm 68:5-6, NIV Our God is someone who cares for the isolated and imprisoned. What I love about the Psalms is how … Continue reading “God is worthy of our trust!”

Beware of cheater contempt

As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT When your cheater shows contempt for you, that is a sure sign that they are not the least bit repentant. Now, they may be annoyed to have to deal with the consequences of their actions. Their god-like assessment … Continue reading “Beware of cheater contempt”

That whole “forsaking all others” part!

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2:24, KJV In my fear of being labelled “controlling,” I had a difficult time recognizing and affirming healthy jealousy and boundaries while my marriage was imploding. I suspect I am not … Continue reading “That whole “forsaking all others” part!”

PSA: Don’t use your cheater’s individual therapist!

Public Service Announcement: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling! One of my many mistakes with my first marriage’s demise was agreeing to see my (now ex) wife’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling. The therapist and her had worked with each other for months, if not years, by that point. I knew … Continue reading “PSA: Don’t use your cheater’s individual therapist!”

Christians repent of considering adultery!

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT While we are all capable of adultery (when married), a person who follows Christ recognizes such as sin immediately and repents of entertaining the idea if it … Continue reading “Christians repent of considering adultery!”