Adultery situation? You are dealing with EVIL!

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery situation? You are dealing with EVIL!”

Doom Twins: Arrogance and Contempt

  21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Doom Twins: Arrogance and Contempt”

Admission of wrongdoing is first step towards true repentance.

No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try and “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading “Admission of wrongdoing is first step towards true repentance.”

Why are you no longer married? Ask the cheater.

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” -Jeremiah 17:9, NLT Feeling obligated to have an explanation for an abandonment or divorce plays a significant role in the suffering of faithful spouses. It is crazy-making. You do not have access to the thoughts … Continue reading “Why are you no longer married? Ask the cheater.”

Do not loose sight of the real problem: The cheater’s lack of character!

Listen to this catchy new country song by Cam: The temptation is to blame the other person involved with our cheater. It is easier to focus our rage at them as opposed to the real source of our hurt. The cheater. I love the lyrics in this song talking about blaming the Other Woman as … Continue reading “Do not loose sight of the real problem: The cheater’s lack of character!”

Faithful spouses are manipulated and abused!

Rescue me, Lord, from evildoers;     protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts     and stir up war every day. They make their tongues as sharp as a serpent’s;     the poison of vipers is on their lips. -Psalm 140:1-3, NIV Cheaters know what they are doing. -They lie to avoid giving the faithful spouse the power that … Continue reading “Faithful spouses are manipulated and abused!”

Other people are affected, too!

You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22b, NIV Divorce and abandonment by a cheater impacts the whole community. This is not a private matter! I was reading an article the other night where the parents of a cheater is struggling with what to do with the lover. They really loved their (now former) … Continue reading “Other people are affected, too!”

You do not owe your cheater agreement!

Your worth is not based on your cheater’s opinion of you. It is important to remember that you do not need to agree with your cheater. You are free to have your own opinions and views. This is true even if your cheater thinks otherwise. In that spirit, I share a song to encourage you: … Continue reading “You do not owe your cheater agreement!”

Cheater-Speak: “I never intended….”

“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your cheater? These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior. Sorry, your intentions, don’t matter here. The impact … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended….””