Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV I am grateful for faithful spouses who opened … Continue reading “Grateful for Brave Other Faithful Spouses”

Cheating Does NOT Justify Cheating.

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, KJV This morning I was listening to the radio when someone came on seeking relationship advice. His fiancee recently became pregnant, and he assumed he was not the father as he had secretly had a vasectomy. Because she conceived, he concluded she cheated and proceeded to sleep with … Continue reading “Cheating Does NOT Justify Cheating.”

Your ex does not own your beliefs. It is okay to disagree.

“Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts.” -Daniel Patrick Moynihan, American Politician Cheaters often forget that faithful spouses do not owe them agreement with their marriage ending narrative. This reality does not stop cheaters from expecting and demanding such agreement, though. Cheaters are perfectly fine pressuring a faithful partner (or ex) … Continue reading “Your ex does not own your beliefs. It is okay to disagree.”

Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition

Rachael Denhollander did an interview with Christianity Today.  Her responses to how coming out as a sexual assault victim of Larry Nassar, the disgraced gymnastics doctor and convicted predator, has impacted her in her Christian community are profound. I did a whole blog post on my thoughts in dialogue with her responses in that interview (click … Continue reading “Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition”

More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…

Recently, the testimony of Rachel Denhollander caught fire in the Christian community for her bringing her faith to bear in the trial of her former abuser, Larry Nassar. I shared a link to the transcripts of her testimony as I found her statements clear and well-articulated explanations of forgiveness and justice in the light of … Continue reading “More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…”

Most resources I found…

While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage” at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, no cost–from the faithful … Continue reading “Most resources I found…”

Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…

Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long … Continue reading “Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…”

Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].”

“Yes, I had a sexual relationship with him. But I am not divorcing you for that.” -Cheater A cheater from a religious background might say some drivel like this in a last ditch attempt to rescue her reputation. They know people–especially if their religion condemns it–generally frown upon adultery. So, they are trying to distract … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].””

Worst piece of advice given to me was …

“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…” -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am still … Continue reading “Worst piece of advice given to me was …”