Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?

Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”

Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent

When choosing a spouse, I recommend NOT marrying someone who demonstrates ambivalence about the union. This is a lesson I learned from my first marriage ending. When you are with someone who is less than eager to “tie the knot,” it may spell problems down the road. Besides, you are worth being with someone who … Continue reading “Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent”

Predator Pastors

Priests form bands of robbers,     waiting in ambush for their victims. They murder travelers along the road to Shechem     and practice every kind of sin. -Hosea 6:9, NLT While writing this blog and receiving email, I have come across more than one scenario involving a married pastor having sex with his (or her) congregant. Then … Continue reading “Predator Pastors”

Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor

***THIS POST IS A CONTINUATION OF “DEAR DM, I AM CHEATING WITH MY PASTOR“*** Dear Divorce Minister (and Mrs. Divorce Minister), Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I … Continue reading “Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor”

More Concerned with Personal Image

Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “More Concerned with Personal Image”

Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101

The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101”

Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.

Dear Divorce Minister, Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I suggested that I should leave his church he’s literally refusing, I tried to find a job away from … Continue reading “Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.”

Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?

Dear Divorce Minister, My husband choose to continue his affair, which has resulted in me filling for divorce. He did not show any true remorse just used the word sorry. His actions in continuing to see his AP told me otherwise. When the divorce is final he is then not committing a sin anymore. What … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?”

Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage

And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage”