Abandonment: When one spouse is “done”

But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “Abandonment: When one spouse is “done””

Hate evil! Have a heart after God’s.

Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Hate evil! Have a heart after God’s.”

PSA: A partial truth is still a lie.

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV Public Service Announcement (PSA): A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest … Continue reading “PSA: A partial truth is still a lie.”

Did Jesus give Himself the gift of forgiveness?

God exalted him to his own right hand as Prince and Savior that he might bring Israel to repentance and forgive their sins. -Acts 5:31, NIV Did Jesus choose forgiveness as a gift he gave himself? Or did it benefit us? The obvious answer is Jesus’ forgiveness benefits us. That is the point. He canceled out sin … Continue reading “Did Jesus give Himself the gift of forgiveness?”

Enemy or Pharisee?

And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Enemy or Pharisee?”

How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.

How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.”

Self-destruction of the person you married

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. -I Corinthians 6:18, NIV Adultery is self-destructive sin. It is not life-giving. It is not joy-producing. It is not (ultimately) fulfilling. God condemns this behavior for how destructive it is. He made us … Continue reading “Self-destruction of the person you married”

Not everyone is going to be reasonable.

“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Not everyone is going to be reasonable.”

Pro-Tip: Do not be shocked if they project their own issues on you!

Pro-Tip: Do not be shocked if they project their own issues on you! Cheaters are not very good at own their own behaviors. They excel at blaming others for their misdeeds. So, it should come as no surprise that the “sins” or “misdeeds” that they accused their spouses of are likely the misdeeds and sins … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Do not be shocked if they project their own issues on you!”