I am an evangelical, ordained minister and professional chaplain.
This website tackles infidelity from those lenses.
I maintain that the Bible has plenty to say on the topics of adultery, abandonment, and divorce to correct what currently is out there for faithful spouses.
In launching this blog, I am attempting to provide healing words to infidelity victims as well as to help other Christian practitioners learn how to provide competent spiritual care for people experiencing such trauma.
As an evangelical, I look to God as revealed in the Bible as the ultimate authority on matters regarding adultery, abandonment, and divorce (as well as all other areas, for that matter). While I am not threatened by findings in sociology, psychology, or other social sciences, I also do not regard them as trumping what I see revealed in Scripture.
I am not a psychologist.
I am not a sociologist.
I am not even a marriage therapist.
I am a pastor. A chaplain.
So, I write and speak as such.
And I write as a faithful spouse.
Because I am, also, an adultery, abandonment, and divorce survivor.
I write as one who has had these dark experiences and seen what toxic pastoral care is like as a faithful spouse. This blog is written as a corrective to such poor spiritual care and bad teaching. And it is a place for the battered souls of faithful spouses to find support and safety.
So, if you see me treating psychology, sociology, etc as less than authoritative on this website, it is because I view them as less authoritative than Scripture. That ought not to come as a surprise.
A scientist will look to science as authoritative.
A historian will look to historical records as authoritative.
An evangelical pastor will look to the Bible as authoritative.
And that is how Divorce Minister rolls…