When choosing a spouse, I recommend NOT marrying someone who demonstrates ambivalence about the union.
This is a lesson I learned from my first marriage ending. When you are with someone who is less than eager to “tie the knot,” it may spell problems down the road.
Besides, you are worth being with someone who wants to be with you. You are a prize, faithful spouse!
The problem arises when troubles come. A less than eager bride or groom might have a different perception of what happened on the wedding day.
When one party has to push and push to get married, a danger is that the other party might treat the union as one “forced” upon them (even though, it wasn’t).
Spouses who think this way are not owning their own agency in getting married. This means they are not owning the marriage commitment either.
I will let you figure out what happens next in that environment…
So, the long and short is to marry someone who is excited to be married to you. Ambivalence up front might foreshadow some nasty surprises later down the road.
Take it from one who has “been there.”