While I dearly hope some of the tough love counsel I share here saves marriages, I do not see that as my job or calling. I am a pastor, and my calling is to feed the sheep. I am called to soul care.
Marriages will not exist in the Heaven (Mt 22:30). But souls will.
I dearly hope God works miracles and marriages ravaged by adultery are resurrected. However, just as I do not tell terminally ill patients and families as a chaplain that God will heal their loved one, I do not tell people with marriages ravaged by adultery that God will resurrect their decimated marriage.
To be clear: My God does do miracles. However, they are called a miracle for a reason. It is out of the natural order of things. Resurrection today is the exception and not the rule. This is true of marriages ravaged by adultery as well.
I make no apologies for taking this position. I am not a marriage counselor. No, I am a pastor and professional chaplain. Prophetically, I see my job as to advocate for righteousness and holiness while caring for the sheep. Sometimes that means advocating for the marriage, and sometimes it does not. Regardless, I will not counsel in a way that encourages or facilitates sin.
Souls are too precious for that.