Instead of your shame you will have a double portion,
And instead of humiliation they will shout for joy over their portion.
Therefore they will possess a double portion in their land,
Everlasting joy will be theirs.
-Isaiah 61:7, NASB
When I was going through my divorce, I never would have thought God could transform my life into what it is today. I could not imagine life without my cheating ex-wife. Certainly, I never thought that life could actually be very, very good and even more fulfilling than life before the divorce.
Today, I cannot imagine my life without Mrs. DM and Munchkin.
The mercy of divorce made this new life possible. It may also be why I am not adamantly opposed to divorce in all situations. I know God can and does bless adultery victims who really have no other options–e.g. they are abandoned and divorced by the other party–or would have to tolerate ongoing abusive, cheating behavior.
As a thought experiment the other day, I wondered on my regular long-commute home whether or not the old life has any appeal to me anymore. If I could wave a magic wand that would give me back my ex plus the old life (when it was good), would I even want it today?
That would mean giving up Munchkin and Mrs. DM. I would never do that willingly. And I certainly wouldn’t do it for such a character-bankrupt person as my ex-wife is–as far as I believe–today.
I share this for those of you early in the discovery or divorce phase. Life does get better. You may not be able to imagine it getting better right now, and you may even long for the violator of your soul to return. I know I did for a while. But that does not mean your best days are behind you. I am living proof of that.