If you have time (35 minutes or so), I would highly recommend that you listen to this audio file on YouTube of Pastor Timothy Keller preaching on spiritual warfare. His text is taken from Ephesians 6.
As I listened to the sermon yesterday, I could not help but think of how applicable this sermon’s ideas are to adultery and its aftermath. I especially see how temptation leads adulterers/adulteresses to cheat and how accusation beats down the faithful spouse. A short version on how temptation works is that it plays into one’s pride and entitlement mindset–i.e. the person feel like they are owed either the illicit sex or the forgiveness afterwards (ergo, commiting adultery is excused by that lie). On the accusation side, the person is beaten down with devaluing messages. Both can be at work in the same person. However, I see one as more prominent in adulterers/adulteresses (Pastor Keller even says as much, and the other more present for those left behind picking up the pieces after adultery.
Fortunately, we need not be passive and accepting of these schemes. Pastor Keller goes on and shares the antidote to these twin schemes from the Devil. I hope you take a listen.
Here’s the link: Keller On Spiritual Warfare