Pastors, we–faithful spouses–are past talking about marriage enrichment issues.
One of the many annoying things about talking to some Christians about infidelity is how they seem incapable of basic spiritual care triage.
They do not understand how working on “communication skills” is not going to save a marriage where one partner refuses to stop banging an outside partner.
It is like talking about the importance of vacuuming the carpets while a fire is raging in the same house.
Please, pastors, put the fire out first!
When infidelity has ravaged a marriage, this is the fire that needs addressing. We are past the household chore dividing issues or give-your-spouse-flowers advice level.
That advice has its time and place. By the way, that time and place is NOT upon adultery discovery!