Too Soon? Slaying the Giant.

And Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spake unto the men; and Eliab’s anger was kindled against David, and he said, “Why camest thou down hither? and with whom hast thou left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know thy pride, and the naughtiness of thine heart; for thou art come down that thou mightest see the battle.”


And David said unto Saul, “Thy servant kept his father’s sheep, and there came a lion, and a bear, and took a lamb out of the flock: And I went out after him, and smote him, and delivered it out of his mouth: and when he arose against me, I caught him by his beard, and smote him, and slew him. Thy servant slew both the lion and the bear: and this uncircumcised Philistine shall be as one of them, seeing he hath defied the armies of the living God.”

– I Samuel 17:28, 34-36, KJV (quotation marks added)


A giant is out there.

A giant who is eating spouses.

A giant who is destroying families.

A giant who is decimating communities.

And this giant is a mocker!

He mocks Christ while destroying His Bride from the inside.

This giant’s name is


My name is David.

I am a pastor, a shepherd of souls.

Like my namesake, I am confronted by brother (and sister) ministers who are quick to tell me how I am not ready to face this giant.

“You sound angry, hurt.”

“It’s too soon.”

“You’re too young and inexperienced.”

And like my namesake, I am told how to “properly” fight this giant. My methods seem too primitive. People are concerned that my methods are too raw, and I will regret my rookie mistakes.

To the naysayers, I have this challenge:

Where is your blog challenging the lies Adultery hurls and propagates about faithful spouses day in and day out?

Why aren’t you as concerned as I am about this giant running free and mocking our Lord?

Who are you to say God has not called and equipped me for such an hour as this?*

From where I am sitting, you strike me just as David’s elder brother, Eliab, does:

Someone who is unwilling to confront the giant yet actively discouraging me from doing so.


This is not your call. The giant needs to be confronted.

I am answering God’s “call to arms.”

God has delivered me from the mouths of lions and bears. He has shown me how to slay the demonic lies sent to destroy. God has given me a testimony of deliverance.

I refuse to stand idly by and watch this giant continue to destroy and mock.

My name is David.

And no mere human will stop me from confronting this giant with my Lord.

*To be clear: I understand not everyone is specifically called and equipped to minister to infidelity and divorce survivors. My concern here is over actively discouraging someone who is.

6 thoughts on “Too Soon? Slaying the Giant.”

  1. DM,
    I have been following you almost from the beginning. I love what you write.

    I am a pastor’s kid. I know first hand the sin that occurs in “church” in the name of God.

    I have been soul raped and I am divorced.

    Your voice has helped me. Your voice is definitely needed from your position. Churches need to discuss and not continue to hide in the shadows when it relates to infidelity and divorce.

    You know what God has called you to do, continue and thank you.

  2. David if God is for you then who can stand against you? I find your courage and Godly wisdom truly awe inspiring makes me want to join the fight too !!

    God bless your ministry

    Ex UK Chump

  3. Like Moxie, I have read your blog almost from the beginning. Anytime someone calls you out on your anger or something like that I just always think they have not experienced a betrayal like adultery. I honestly think it is something you cannot fully understand until you have been through it. I had two friends from my church go through it before I did and I did not understand it. I felt badly for them, never blamed them but I did not understand the devastation of it all. I wished I could have been a better friend to them at that time but now I can. Now I can help and empathize with others going through this. Your ministry is brave, caring and so needed. Those naysayers just don’t understand. You anger is righteous and your words have helped a lot of people heal.

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