Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
-Hebrews 13:4, NIV
Even–maybe especially–when caught red-handed and finally acknowledging their infidelity, cheaters will STILL try to shift the attention onto the faithful spouse’s “deficiencies.”
The majority of their confession is light on what they did wrong and heavy on what–i.e. who–“made” them do it.
It reads like a five year old blaming her infant brother for eating all the cookies when mommy and daddy weren’t looking.
We ought to respond to such ludicrous excuses from cheaters accordingly.
The LAST thing we ought to do is spend precious energy and emotion trying to figure out how the blamed infant–who cannot even crawl–somehow got into the “cookie jar” and consumed all the “cookies.”
It is absurd. No spouse makes another spouse cheat.
Now, I understand the cheater usually cannot help himself or herself in blame-shifting this upon the faithful partner. So, do not be surprise when they do.
It is the place of adults to recognize the pathetic excuses for what they are:
Facing the mirror for cheaters is tough. It is tough because the mirror reflects back the ugliness of what they actually did to their spouse.
But they need to face this ugliness if they are to forsake it and actually repent.
Do not fall for the diversion tactics.