The demons begged Jesus, “Send us among the pigs; allow us to go into them [pigs].” -Mark 5:12, NIV Cheaters often do not want to face the truth. Confronted with the truth about how evil their behavior is, some choose to run away or blame the faithful spouse. The truth burns. Take a cheater who … Continue reading “Allergic Reaction”
Category: Theology of divorce
Choosing to choose daily
‘”Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.’” -Matthew 19:6, NLT Today, I was at a conference where the speaker, Steve Backlund, said something about marriage and making decisions. He stated that the marriage vows really say, “I’m going to keep choosing you.” I totally … Continue reading “Choosing to choose daily”
YOUR call!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Whether you stay or choose divorce is YOUR call! Not mine. Not your pastor’s. Not your therapist’s. YOUR call! I think it is important to take responsibility for our choices and not … Continue reading “YOUR call!”
Marriage is not a business deal.
You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14, NIV Christian marriage is not a business deal. It is a solemn covenant relationship that involves God as a party. Some cheaters … Continue reading “Marriage is not a business deal.”
Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies
When dealing with a cheater who has lived a double life for months (or years), you likely only know a small part of the deception and infidelity. They have been at this deception for a while. What you know now is a fractured partial of the story, and they have demonstrated an unwillingness to clue … Continue reading “Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies”
Life is too short
15 Our days on earth are like grass; like wildflowers, we bloom and die. 16 The wind blows, and we are gone— as though we had never been here. -Psalm 103:15-16, NLT Life is too short to argue with a cheater. Do not waste your precious time arguing over your worth. You should not have to explain … Continue reading “Life is too short”
Tune in Holy Spirit
15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Tune in Holy Spirit”
God allows remarriage
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “God allows remarriage”
Boasting about “saved marriages”
When pastors or Christian counselors boast of “saved marriages,” I am immediately skeptical. Usually, this means the couple did not divorce. It really says nothing about whether or not repentance took place on the part of the cheater. The spiritual health of the spouses is not really addressed or defined with such numbers. “Saving” a … Continue reading “Boasting about “saved marriages””
Understandably Stuck
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. -Jeremiah 3:8, NIV Feeling stuck in staying in a marriage to a cheater is understandable when that cheater is the primary source of finances for your family. I get it. To a lesser degree, I understand how being the lower … Continue reading “Understandably Stuck”