Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear Younger Self”
Category: Theology of divorce
Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!”
“Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you,” says remorseless Cheater. A cheater saying such a thing is a cheater who is desperate to control how people see them in the divorce. They understand that Christians may look upon them poorly once their adultery is known. So, they want … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!””
Divorced and Blessed!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV The Church needs to hear stories from divorced faithful spouses who went on to live fulfilling lives after the ending of their marriages. These testimonies are needed for faithful spouses who are trapped in fear. The fear of the spiritually … Continue reading “Divorced and Blessed!”
We can…
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “We can…”
Moment of slippage
Did you ever have your Cheater give you a moment of unintentional honesty? I call it a moment, because they did not follow that brief glimpse into reality with a full confession. However, for a moment, you caught a glimpse of what was or is really happening with them. Maybe they confessed to doing something … Continue reading “Moment of slippage”
Could’ve stayed stuck
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Could’ve stayed stuck”
Unchosen path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family at that time. But I … Continue reading “Unchosen path”
Scary divorce.
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV A popular Christian curriculum for people going through divorce would regularly try to dissuade people from divorcing by pointing out the financial … Continue reading “Scary divorce.”
False Hope Enables Cheaters Abuse
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “False Hope Enables Cheaters Abuse”
Not really the choice
Even a faithful spouse “choosing” to divorce their cheater is really not the choice. They had chosen to be married for life to a person who left all others. However, that person decided to change things. They chose adultery. That just left bad options for the faithful spouse. The faithful spouse choosing divorce is a person … Continue reading “Not really the choice”