To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Do not go on the ride”
Category: Cheating
Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress
When a cheater is done with you, they might refuse to talk about what they enjoy about being married to you. This makes it easier on them both to cheat on you and to discard you. After all, the positives would remind them of real losses that come with the ending of the marriage. Such … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress”
Cheater speaking…
“I don’t love you anymore.” “I feel like we are just roommates.” “I need space.” Have you heard any of these “gems” come out of your cheater’s mouth? Maybe they spoke such words before you knew they were cheating on you? That would make sense. As these words are designed to hide their dastardly behavior … Continue reading “Cheater speaking…”
Friends behave like friends.
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT A friend behaves like a friend. I know this sounds straight forward, but we need to hear it sometimes when tempted to make excuses for some people. Just because someone claims the title “friend” for themselves … Continue reading “Friends behave like friends.”
Hate being lied to
When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44b, NLT I hate being lied to. In other words, I don’t like being manipulated because that is what being lied to is about–namely, manipulation. Someone who lies to you is trying to manipulate you. … Continue reading “Hate being lied to”
In love with darkness
…men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. -John 3:19b-20, NKJV Cheaters do not want their lies exposed. They will go through all sort of contortions to keep control of the narrative where they … Continue reading “In love with darkness”
Roots into Christ’s love
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. -Ephesians 3:17b-19, NIV Do … Continue reading “Roots into Christ’s love”
Hurts SOO much!
Day and night I have only tears for food, while my enemies continually taunt me, saying, “Where is this God of yours?” -Psalm 42:3, NLT Hurts SOOO much! It is hard to overstate how awful it feels to discover your spouse has been unfaithful to you. The pain is literally debilitating. Basic life functions like … Continue reading “Hurts SOO much!”
Inflated Sense of Entitlement
An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, “What’s wrong with that?” -Proverbs 30:20, NLT Only a cheater could confess to infidelity in one breath and in the other demand that you win their trust back in the other! It is truly a moment in life that is stranger than fiction. Yet I … Continue reading “Inflated Sense of Entitlement”
So many decisions even in the act!
Cheating does not “just happen.” So many deliberated choices are made by cheaters that pave the way to violating their marriage vows. Infidelity is NEVER just one “mistake.” They had to make a series of poor choices. -To have sex with someone not their spouse, they had to first find this individual. -They had to … Continue reading “So many decisions even in the act!”