Grief is not linear and is not rational. I don’t know about you, but I wish this was otherwise about grief. It would be nice to say that when you’ve gone through one task then it is done. But that is NOT how grief works. It doesn’t go through orderly phases in sequence. It isn’t … Continue reading “Not linear”
Category: Grief
As if it was always a mutual decision!
Publicly, some Cheaters may present the divorce story as if it was always a mutual decision based on unfortunate circumstances. They HATE when an uppity faithful spouse spills the beans, though, about their cheating. That is NOT what they want others knowing. The last thing they want is accountability or consequences for their cheating. Now, … Continue reading “As if it was always a mutual decision!”
Feeling like used, discarded tissue
“I felt like a used piece of tissue paper. Just thrown away in the trash.” – Vineyard pastor The quote might not be exact. However, I will never forget the thrust of what she said. The message was unmistakable. This brave pastoral spouse shared to a young Vineyard Church about her experience of being sexually … Continue reading “Feeling like used, discarded tissue”
A Decade Already!
Today, Mrs. DM and I celebrate ten years of marriage! I share this as a word of encouragement to those in the midst of “the suck.” It can and does get better on the other side of the divorce. Looking back, I felt like my world ended with my divorce. So many dreams died with … Continue reading “A Decade Already!”
Disappointment and Palm Sunday
9 “Rejoice greatly, O daughter of Zion! Shout, O daughter of Jerusalem! Behold, your King is coming to you; He is just and having salvation, Lowly and riding on a donkey, A colt, the foal of a donkey. -Zechariah 9:9, NKJV Today, I get to preach on Palm Sunday. My sermon is on the theme of disappointment with God. On … Continue reading “Disappointment and Palm Sunday”
Can’t go back. Must move forward!
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. -Psalm 23:4, KJV You cannot go back. Time does not work that way. You cannot un-know what you now know. Knowledge does not work that … Continue reading “Can’t go back. Must move forward!”
SO many lies!
You belong to your father, the devil…. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44a, c, NIV SO MANY LIES! You cannot cheat, I believe, without lying. The Cheater is lying to others besides their partner. Plus, I believe they start by lying … Continue reading “SO many lies!”
Laugh with those who laugh
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Laugh with those who laugh! I am grateful for the pets in my life. We have a full house of birds and lizards at the present. They bring such joy and laughter to our hearts! Years ago while I was … Continue reading “Laugh with those who laugh”
I believe God can raise the dead, but…
I believe God can and does raise the dead, but… …I still do funerals. This is my stance on marriages ravaged by infidelity. I believe some can be resurrected; however, that is a miracle. It is about as common as a funeral ending in a resurrection today. That is to say, not common. The natural … Continue reading “I believe God can raise the dead, but…”
I was interviewed for a podcast! Talking Spiritual Abuse and Divorce.
Earlier this past month, I had the privilege to speak with Tracy Schorn and Sarah Gorrell on Spiritual Abuse and Infidelity for their podcast, Tell Me How You’re Mighty. The interview is now live on YouTube. Here is the (click here).