In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless! -Ecclesiastes 8:14b, NLT These words seem like they were written today and not as they were–i.e. thousands of years earlier! I bet many here can relate to … Continue reading “Wicked Prospering”
Category: Grief
Crying for deliverance
But I am poor and needy; Make haste to me, O God! You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay. -Psalm 70:5, NKJV You take a real pounding when you are the faithful spouse. That pounding of losses feels relentless in the beginning of the discoveries. A major part of why we often stay stuck wanting … Continue reading “Crying for deliverance”
Love and Parrots
When I was going through the tough anniversary yesterday, I was comforted by thinking about all I have gained post-divorce. In particular, I remembered that I would not have become a parrot owner without my divorce. That means I never would have met my special buddy nor all our other flock members if I had … Continue reading “Love and Parrots”
Would have been 20th
Today would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. This one hits differently. I feel the grief on this day more so than I have with such anniversaries in the more recent years. It probably has to do with it being such a milestone and what that means to my heart as to what was lost. … Continue reading “Would have been 20th”
God is extravagantly good!
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does not … Continue reading “God is extravagantly good!”
Divorce Grief
The obvious loss with the divorce is the end of the marriage. However, we all know this loss is merely the tip of the loss iceberg. If we relied upon our cheater’s income, we loose financial security. We all loose money and material things both to obtain a divorce plus to divide up the marriage … Continue reading “Divorce Grief”
Fixation on faithful spouse reaction
“A friend of mine is a great example of someone who brought sin into his houseful of kids through his 40-year porn addiction and then had an encounter with God that empowered him to change. …His wife is still playing the role of the punisher, and his children are still distant, regardless of his change … Continue reading “Fixation on faithful spouse reaction”
Sick feeling
When even a cheater spouse announces divorce, the feeling can be devastating. I know that is how I felt when my ex made the announcement about seeing a divorce attorney. The loss of dreams, security, and future are incredible. It is not surprising such news can put a faithful spouse in shock. Shock is a … Continue reading “Sick feeling”
Mismatching
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV Whether one is abandoned or cheated on or both, the reality for faithful spouses is as stark as this verse from 2 Corinthians paints it. Light cannot fellowship with … Continue reading “Mismatching”
Harming and then blaming you!
“You made me do this!” cries Cheater. One of the many painful aspects of dealing with a cheater is how they frame their cheating abuse. Some of this cruel individuals will blame the victim while they harm them. They might blame them for choosing to abandon them as if the faithful spouse had a say. … Continue reading “Harming and then blaming you!”