Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again— my Savior and 6 my God! -Psalm 42:5-6a, NLT Grief is great with a marriage ending via infidelity. You have all the loses that come with your marriage ending and then loses around the traumas … Continue reading “So much grief!”
Category: Grief
Forgiveness: Do I trust God?
From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. The earth trembled and quaked, and the foundations of the mountains shook; they trembled because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6b-7, NIV Can I trust God with my hurt? I think the answer to this question is answering the question of whether or … Continue reading “Forgiveness: Do I trust God?”
Wanting “understanding” is a trap!
16 But the Lord God warned him, “You may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden— 17 except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit, you are sure to die.” -Genesis 2:16-17, NLT Wanting “understanding” is a trap! Obtaining some knowledge is too costly. That is a lesson that can … Continue reading “Wanting “understanding” is a trap!”
Friends behave like friends.
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT A friend behaves like a friend. I know this sounds straight forward, but we need to hear it sometimes when tempted to make excuses for some people. Just because someone claims the title “friend” for themselves … Continue reading “Friends behave like friends.”
False Hope Enables Cheaters Abuse
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “False Hope Enables Cheaters Abuse”
No Circle Backs
Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions. -Proverbs 18:2, NLT No Circle Backs People who were hard on me did not apologize once it became known that my (now) ex-wife was cheating. They did not circle back and acknowledge that their perspective might have been overly harsh and … Continue reading “No Circle Backs”
Could’ve Been SO different!
A danger for faithful spouses is focusing on the fantasy and not the reality of their situation. A spouse who cheats is the opposite of what the faithful spouse signed up for on their wedding day. Obviously, the marriage could have gone a very different way! I think it is wise to acknowledge this. Something precious was … Continue reading “Could’ve Been SO different!”
Not just watched, but seen!
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. -Psalm 56:8, NLT A few weeks ago, I had the privilege of jumping on a live online event with Fr. Gregory Boyle. He is a priest whose life work is directed … Continue reading “Not just watched, but seen!”
Envying your Cheater?
Don’t follow after the wicked ones or be jealous of their wealth. Don’t think for a moment they’re better off than you. They and their short-lived success will soon shrivel up and quickly fade away like grass clippings in the hot sun. -Psalm 37:1-2, TPT Much energy can be wasted in cheater envy. Been there. Done … Continue reading “Envying your Cheater?”
Old Emails
“If someone ventures a word with you, will you be impatient? But who can keep from speaking?” -Job 4:2, NIV Recently, I was doing a search in my email account, and it popped up with results from when I was dealing with my (now) ex-wife. Like Eliphaz to Job here, I had two emails that … Continue reading “Old Emails”