A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…. -Ecclesiastes 3:4, KJV When a marriage ends, we need a space where we can be honest with our pain. Often times, that includes “the ugly cry.” I encourage you all to find a place where you can … Continue reading “Falling Apart”
Category: Grief
Sharing our tears
“God Weeps Too” by Eli–an obscure Christian artist from the 90s–is one of my favorite songs. While he does not name situations of infidelity survival, I love how he names God as one who weeps alongside the broken-hearted. This understanding of God coming alongside like a good parent or friend was important for me to … Continue reading “Sharing our tears”
Stop Digging!
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering. Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. We do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Stop Digging!”
More hearts
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “More hearts”
Sadness for a season
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: ….a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… -Ecclesiastes 3:1,4, NIV I remember fearing I would be crying forever when my life blew up around my (now) ex-wife’s abandonment and … Continue reading “Sadness for a season”
Wicked Prospering
In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless! -Ecclesiastes 8:14b, NLT These words seem like they were written today and not as they were–i.e. thousands of years earlier! I bet many here can relate to … Continue reading “Wicked Prospering”
Crying for deliverance
But I am poor and needy; Make haste to me, O God! You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay. -Psalm 70:5, NKJV You take a real pounding when you are the faithful spouse. That pounding of losses feels relentless in the beginning of the discoveries. A major part of why we often stay stuck wanting … Continue reading “Crying for deliverance”
Love and Parrots
When I was going through the tough anniversary yesterday, I was comforted by thinking about all I have gained post-divorce. In particular, I remembered that I would not have become a parrot owner without my divorce. That means I never would have met my special buddy nor all our other flock members if I had … Continue reading “Love and Parrots”
Would have been 20th
Today would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. This one hits differently. I feel the grief on this day more so than I have with such anniversaries in the more recent years. It probably has to do with it being such a milestone and what that means to my heart as to what was lost. … Continue reading “Would have been 20th”
God is extravagantly good!
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does not … Continue reading “God is extravagantly good!”