She would never… but she did. No one enjoys learning that they were wrong about someone in a horrible way. The sick feeling of learning that you’ve been played is not one I enjoy, at least. So many of us, faithful spouses, are all too familiar with that feeling, though. We were SO trusting. The … Continue reading “She would never… but she did.”
Category: Sin
Not Judge-y Enough!
What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? -I Corinthians 5:12, NIV An excuse made for passivity in the face of an unrepentant cheater in church is how someone does not want to look “judge-y.” This is such shame-based thinking. As such, this leads to … Continue reading “Not Judge-y Enough!”
Critical Error: Bethel and Danny Silk
Suspended Bethel leader, Ben Armstrong, was the mentor and spiritual father to Sarah who lived with him and his family for a period of time. He touched her in inappropriate ways and without her consent (allegedly). When Sarah uncovered this inappropriate relationship to the leadership at Bethel, they treated her as an affair partner. Then … Continue reading “Critical Error: Bethel and Danny Silk”
Vicious Cheater Rage
You would think a cheater would be the happy one as they are selfishly indulging in illicit sex. Yet they seem to be the most onerous person in the world in interactions with their faithful partner. It is like the faithful partner offended them profoundly as opposed to the opposite as is true. I am … Continue reading “Vicious Cheater Rage”
Accepting their decision
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God’s messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn’t let me.” -Matthew 23:37, NLT Jesus wanted to see the Jewish people turn to him. We see this in this … Continue reading “Accepting their decision”
Crushed versus Crusher
20 A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he has brought justice through to victory. 21 In his name the nations will put their hope.” -Matthew 12:20-21, NIV Crushed versus Crusher A pastoral error frequently made when handling infidelity cases is treating both parties the same way. … Continue reading “Crushed versus Crusher”
Good Shepherd Fends Off Predators!
12 The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. -John 10:12, NIV Sometimes being a good pastor means being a good shepherd and protecting the sheep from wolves. … Continue reading “Good Shepherd Fends Off Predators!”
Stuck via cheater denial
How many were deceived for a longer period of time because your cheater explicitly denied what he or she was doing? “I would never cheat on you.” “You know me better than that. There isn’t another man [or woman] involved.” “We need to focus on your problems. Don’t worry about me. I wouldn’t cheat on … Continue reading “Stuck via cheater denial”
Once a cheater…
Once a cheater, always a cheater. -Common Saying Do I believe this common saying? Yes and no… but mostly yes. Cheating is a character deep problem. The actual cheating is symptomatic of a soul rot that needs drastic attention by the cheater in order to deal with it before it leaves to spiritual terminality. Most … Continue reading “Once a cheater…”
Taken for granted
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18, NLT Cheaters are so quick to forget or devalue what you bring to the marriage. In the discarding phase, they might treat you as worthless. Some might go as far as to claim you bring and … Continue reading “Taken for granted”