For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NKJV Accountability When cheaters talk about their marriages, they often point to their victim as the problem. The cheating is treated as a … Continue reading “Accountable”
Category: Sin
Marriage is not a business deal.
You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14, NIV Christian marriage is not a business deal. It is a solemn covenant relationship that involves God as a party. Some cheaters … Continue reading “Marriage is not a business deal.”
Cheater Rebelling Behavior
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Cheater Rebelling Behavior”
Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies
When dealing with a cheater who has lived a double life for months (or years), you likely only know a small part of the deception and infidelity. They have been at this deception for a while. What you know now is a fractured partial of the story, and they have demonstrated an unwillingness to clue … Continue reading “Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies”
Failed Basic Moral Education
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV I am astounded by how greatly some people fail to maintain even a basic level of morality. Cheaters are one group in this category. It is not enough to harm their spouse through deception. Rather, they feel entitled to further abuse them in pastor and therapist offices … Continue reading “Failed Basic Moral Education”
Don’t feed their contempt
Here is the deceptive way of the adulterous woman: she takes what she wants and then says, “I’ve done nothing wrong.” -Proverbs 30:20, TPT While I believe we can all learn from our mistakes and sins in a relationship, I caution against the counsel to own our marriage sins with a cheater in active infidelity. … Continue reading “Don’t feed their contempt”
Wicked Prospering
In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless! -Ecclesiastes 8:14b, NLT These words seem like they were written today and not as they were–i.e. thousands of years earlier! I bet many here can relate to … Continue reading “Wicked Prospering”
Dangerous Partial Truths
One day he [the serpent] asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Genesis 3:1b, NLT Partial truth lies are the most dangerous. We see the example of this here in the story of how humans sinned and fell from grace. The … Continue reading “Dangerous Partial Truths”
So seared off!
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV While this verse is really about false teachers leading people astray, I think it applies to cheaters as well. This verse reminds us that not everyone is bothered by morally corrupt behavior. What might trouble our conscience greatly does … Continue reading “So seared off!”
Tune in Holy Spirit
15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Tune in Holy Spirit”