4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “Wanted… by a pet”
Category: Encouragement
Dear Younger Self
Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear Younger Self”
Blog has a birthday–12 Years!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously turns 12 years old today! This small ministry has made it over a decade in existence. It is hard to believe I have been writing for this long on this topic. I am so glad for all the people this website has helped. It is my way to give back … Continue reading “Blog has a birthday–12 Years!”
So much GOOD life ahead!
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. -Isaiah 61:7, NIV So much GOOD life ahead of you! This past week I had the privilege to enjoy time up … Continue reading “So much GOOD life ahead!”
Divorced and Blessed!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV The Church needs to hear stories from divorced faithful spouses who went on to live fulfilling lives after the ending of their marriages. These testimonies are needed for faithful spouses who are trapped in fear. The fear of the spiritually … Continue reading “Divorced and Blessed!”
We can…
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “We can…”
Your Victory Narrative
Instead of shame and dishonor, you will enjoy a double share of honor. -Isaiah 61:7a, NLT Why would you choose to accept the lie-filled narrative from your cheater as your own narrative? Choose your own victory narrative! Remember: You are not the rejected spouse. RATHER, you are the FAITHFUL SPOUSE! You are not the morally … Continue reading “Your Victory Narrative”
To my dudes: Happy Father’s Day!
Today, we celebrate fathers. This includes men who are biological fathers, spiritual fathers, or step-fathers. We celebrate those men who have stepped up and been there calling out the gold in your children. Next to being married to Mrs. DM, this is my favorite role–dad to Munchkin. I feel God was recklessly generous to me … Continue reading “To my dudes: Happy Father’s Day!”
Cheater Generated Anxieties
One of the many difficulties of dealing with a cheater is how they induce panic and anxiety in us. I can remember feeling such panic and anxiety during each interaction with my cheater. Maybe it is just me?! But I doubt it. This fear and panic comes from all the nasty surprises one gets in … Continue reading “Cheater Generated Anxieties”
Fellowship of the Forsaken
“My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” -Matthew 27:46b, KJV When I was struggling the most, these words from Jesus brought me the greatest comfort. They were reminders to me that God understood the pain and suffering that I was enduring. He could relate. Jesus understands what it meant to suffer unjustly. Jesus understands … Continue reading “Fellowship of the Forsaken”