“Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didn’t choose me. I chose you.” -John 15:15b-16a, NLT I think one of the most endearing part of owning a dog (or parrot, in my case) is how they demonstrate how much they choose and want you! In this, they are … Continue reading “Chosen as a friend”
Category: Encouragement
Crying for deliverance
But I am poor and needy; Make haste to me, O God! You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay. -Psalm 70:5, NKJV You take a real pounding when you are the faithful spouse. That pounding of losses feels relentless in the beginning of the discoveries. A major part of why we often stay stuck wanting … Continue reading “Crying for deliverance”
Love and Parrots
When I was going through the tough anniversary yesterday, I was comforted by thinking about all I have gained post-divorce. In particular, I remembered that I would not have become a parrot owner without my divorce. That means I never would have met my special buddy nor all our other flock members if I had … Continue reading “Love and Parrots”
God is extravagantly good!
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does not … Continue reading “God is extravagantly good!”
Yes, truly good!
If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? -Matthew 7:11, KJV Our God is a Good Father. Today, that was driven home to me in an answer to many prayers relating … Continue reading “Yes, truly good!”
Sick feeling
When even a cheater spouse announces divorce, the feeling can be devastating. I know that is how I felt when my ex made the announcement about seeing a divorce attorney. The loss of dreams, security, and future are incredible. It is not surprising such news can put a faithful spouse in shock. Shock is a … Continue reading “Sick feeling”
Power of pet love
What do you do to calm yourself when you feel anxious? I usually get anxious when a medical provider is taking my blood pressure. The fear of “failing” this test just makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy as my anxiety rises and with it, my blood pressure. Telling myself to “calm down” just doesn’t work. What … Continue reading “Power of pet love”
Wanted… by a pet
4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “Wanted… by a pet”
Dear Younger Self
Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear Younger Self”
Blog has a birthday–12 Years!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously turns 12 years old today! This small ministry has made it over a decade in existence. It is hard to believe I have been writing for this long on this topic. I am so glad for all the people this website has helped. It is my way to give back … Continue reading “Blog has a birthday–12 Years!”