Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. -I Corinthians 6:18, NIV Flee sexual sin! This is something not often taught upon when it comes to adultery, which qualifies as sexual immorality. The command to flee from this sort of sin … Continue reading “Flee Sexual Sin!”
Category: Sin
Obliterating tide
Infidelity is like the incoming tide to your sand castle marriage. It obliterates all the hard work done to create a beautiful relationship. It undermines everything. Then it washes it all away like it was never there. Such is marital infidelity. Whether the sand castle was already falling down or whether it was a “Taj … Continue reading “Obliterating tide”
Called out for despising?!
“This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will deal with you as you deserve, because you have despised my oath by breaking the covenant.” -Ezekiel 16:59, NIV Where are the pastors calling out cheaters for hating and despising their marriage covenant partners? I find it interesting that Christians are quick to judge the faithful … Continue reading “Called out for despising?!”
Let them be wrong and move along
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Part of the injustice faithful spouses often experience is a less than supportive community of people. Sometimes, even confessing Christians will not accept what … Continue reading “Let them be wrong and move along”
Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!”
“Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you,” says remorseless Cheater. A cheater saying such a thing is a cheater who is desperate to control how people see them in the divorce. They understand that Christians may look upon them poorly once their adultery is known. So, they want … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!””
Self-Damage, NOT Self-Care
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. -Matthew 19:6a, NIV The cheater approaching the affair as “self-care” or something “finally, for ME!” is self-deceived. You cannot sin against the marriage without also sinning against yourself. This is what the Judeo-Christian concept of marriage teaches us. The marriage partners are ONE. An affair certainly is … Continue reading “Self-Damage, NOT Self-Care”
We can…
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “We can…”
Solves Nothing
But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NLT So, your marriage has been full of conflict. -Maybe you argue over money use? -Maybe frequency of sex is an issue? -Maybe support keeping up the house is a sore spot? -Maybe having kids is a hard conversation? … Continue reading “Solves Nothing”
Moment of slippage
Did you ever have your Cheater give you a moment of unintentional honesty? I call it a moment, because they did not follow that brief glimpse into reality with a full confession. However, for a moment, you caught a glimpse of what was or is really happening with them. Maybe they confessed to doing something … Continue reading “Moment of slippage”
Forbidden Fruit Fantasy
And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” -Genesis 2:16-17, NIV I suspect many of our cheaters were addicted to the “high” … Continue reading “Forbidden Fruit Fantasy”