For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.-Psalm 51:3, NIV
Aghast at own behavior!
A cheater without this response to their own behavior is a cheater who is not really sorry or repentant. They ought to be horrified at what they did to their spouse. Sadly, most are not.
In fact, many cheaters feel and act entitled to such abusive behavior.
I do not recommend trying to “reconcile” with such cheaters. They are telling you that they will blame everyone or everything else than look at themselves as the author of their sins. You are not even at the starting line of repentance in such instances.
A repentant cheater prioritizes the person they harmed. They see what their actions did to them and feel great remorse over such impact. Such individuals are not interested in protecting themselves but rather repairing what they damaged.
Cheaters stuck in their sin are unwilling to own such sin. They are not ashamed of their behavior but rather continue to spout the “justifying” lies that led them into such wickedness.
