“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Whether you stay or choose divorce is YOUR call! Not mine. Not your pastor’s. Not your therapist’s. YOUR call! I think it is important to take responsibility for our choices and not … Continue reading “YOUR call!”
Category: Sin
Sane Voices
Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. -Proverbs 2:12, NLT When going through infidelity discovery, faithful spouses need wisdom. We need sane voices as the situation is maddening. I went through my infidelity discovery experience in my late 20s and look back now in my 40s wishing someone with … Continue reading “Sane Voices”
We had “opportunity” too!
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. 25 Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. -Proverbs 6:24-25, NLT We had opportunity, too! That is the thing about people with character. They do NOT give into temptation. Their vows means something to them. … Continue reading “We had “opportunity” too!”
Ready, Not Forgiven
For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You. -Psalm 86:5, NKJV “God is ready to forgive.” -Diane Langberg, Ph.D. I was on an online event today where Dr. Diane Langberg spoke. She brought this point up about forgiveness as a point about God’s forgiveness. The idea … Continue reading “Ready, Not Forgiven”
Self-serving Scruples
This made the Pharisees and teachers of religious law complain that he was associating with such sinful people—even eating with them! -Luke 15:2, NLT Funny how cheaters and their apologists will appeal to “Christian” ideals when it serves them. As soon as you point out their need to repent, they try to change the subject … Continue reading “Self-serving Scruples”
Emotional Affair Admissions
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NLT I am convinced Cheaters will generally admit the “lesser” of their sins when caught. This means in an evangelical Christian world that they will admit an emotional affair before they admit … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Admissions”
Cheaters denigrate
“She was being unfair. Jane knew just what a good soldier her husband was, but a woman who has deserted her man and stolen his fortune soon learns to denigrate his memory as a justification for her actions.” -Bernarnd Cornwell, Waterloo (#11) (Sharpe Book 20), New York, New York: Penguin Books, 1987, pp65. The above … Continue reading “Cheaters denigrate”
Accountable
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NKJV Accountability When cheaters talk about their marriages, they often point to their victim as the problem. The cheating is treated as a … Continue reading “Accountable”
Marriage is not a business deal.
You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14, NIV Christian marriage is not a business deal. It is a solemn covenant relationship that involves God as a party. Some cheaters … Continue reading “Marriage is not a business deal.”
Cheater Rebelling Behavior
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Cheater Rebelling Behavior”