Some people just cannot handle the souls of others well. The conversation where a faithful spouse spills their grief and pain results in a shaming exercise where the Christian listener warns the faithful spouse about bitterness and God’s hatred of divorce. I know I fell into the “oversharing trap” early in my marriage’s dissolution. Too … Continue reading “On oversharing”
Category: Grief
Allure of Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given about forgiveness for faithful spouses as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses to forgive. I don’t … Continue reading “Allure of Premature Forgiveness”
Obligation to tell
“If you sin by not stepping up and offering yourself as a witness to something you’ve heard or seen in cases of wrongdoing, you’ll be held responsible.” -Leviticus 5:1, MSG Is adultery wrong? Yes, it is sin. So, if you see someone cheating on their spouse, you are obligated to let them know and not … Continue reading “Obligation to tell”
(Good) New Things Coming!
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV I love history. Maybe that love of the past … Continue reading “(Good) New Things Coming!”
Ghost of Trauma’s Past
The other day I was driving through an area I had been in the past. It provoked some weird feelings. One of the last times I had driven through that area was for my ecclesiastical trial deposition. This was where my former denomination convened a panel of pastors roughly my father’s age who were disastrously … Continue reading “Ghost of Trauma’s Past”
Lingering Grief
Grief is a strange thing. Just last week, we lost one of our Green Cheek Conures, Trip. He had a run in with a large bird and subsequently had to have surgery. It was simply too much for him, and he died from it all. Trip was a bonded pair with Kirk. As bonded pairs, … Continue reading “Lingering Grief”
Just another day… divorced 12 years today!
Divorce Anniversary Today! 12 Years! It did not even register until I noticed it going through my blog files. This is how little this date means to me today. It is just another day. I have much more important to consider like what to write for my sermon on Sunday. This isn’t to brag. It … Continue reading “Just another day… divorced 12 years today!”
Temptation to Accept Blame
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NIV I hate feeling powerless. Yet feeling this feeling is part of the journey of grief. We must feel … Continue reading “Temptation to Accept Blame”
Lessons from a dead pet
Today, we said good-bye to one of our dear parrot buddies, Trip. He died from complications following a surgery. It sucks. It mystifies me how Cheaters can discard spouses so easily. I only had this little bird for a few years and am profoundly sad at his death. The lack of attachment to another human … Continue reading “Lessons from a dead pet”
The pain WILL pass!
My tears have been my food day and night, while people say to me all day long, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NIV The pain will pass. I know this is cold comfort in the middle of your pain. It is hard to think of a new world without your spouse and losing everything that … Continue reading “The pain WILL pass!”