And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted; and he said, “For I will go down into the grave unto my son mourning. Thus his father wept for him [Joseph].” -Genesis 37:35, KJV Giving up the dreams regarding your marriage are tough. I had … Continue reading “Dreams Die So Others May Rise”
Category: Grief
Valentine’s Day Mess
Happy Valentine’s Day to those who celebrate! This is one holiday that is tricky for faithful spouses. It is one that can be ruined by cheaters and their cruelty. Don’t let them. Remember: Love is not the enemy! It does exist and is more than lust. Love exists that carries people through difficult times. I … Continue reading “Valentine’s Day Mess”
Mailbag: What do you do with this?
Dear DM, What do you do with this? I came here tonight because I am desperate. As I get closer to God I realize that doesn’t guarantee an answer about what I am supposed to do. My husband acts as if we’re fine everything is fine but it’s almost INSANE. What is your problem, “why … Continue reading “Mailbag: What do you do with this?”
A song trigger
Yesterday, Mrs. and Munchkin were with me at a local restaurant. A country song came on overhead, and I was immediately transported to my first honeymoon. Poignant was the memory. Kind of sad but also happy in the sense that it was a joyous time when the memory was made. This is grief. I am … Continue reading “A song trigger”
On oversharing
Some people just cannot handle the souls of others well. The conversation where a faithful spouse spills their grief and pain results in a shaming exercise where the Christian listener warns the faithful spouse about bitterness and God’s hatred of divorce. I know I fell into the “oversharing trap” early in my marriage’s dissolution. Too … Continue reading “On oversharing”
Allure of Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given about forgiveness for faithful spouses as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses to forgive. I don’t … Continue reading “Allure of Premature Forgiveness”
Obligation to tell
“If you sin by not stepping up and offering yourself as a witness to something you’ve heard or seen in cases of wrongdoing, you’ll be held responsible.” -Leviticus 5:1, MSG Is adultery wrong? Yes, it is sin. So, if you see someone cheating on their spouse, you are obligated to let them know and not … Continue reading “Obligation to tell”
(Good) New Things Coming!
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV I love history. Maybe that love of the past … Continue reading “(Good) New Things Coming!”
Ghost of Trauma’s Past
The other day I was driving through an area I had been in the past. It provoked some weird feelings. One of the last times I had driven through that area was for my ecclesiastical trial deposition. This was where my former denomination convened a panel of pastors roughly my father’s age who were disastrously … Continue reading “Ghost of Trauma’s Past”
Lingering Grief
Grief is a strange thing. Just last week, we lost one of our Green Cheek Conures, Trip. He had a run in with a large bird and subsequently had to have surgery. It was simply too much for him, and he died from it all. Trip was a bonded pair with Kirk. As bonded pairs, … Continue reading “Lingering Grief”