“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!”
-Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT
Choices, choices, and cheater choices!
The thing with cheaters is how they try to avoid the obvious matter that they made choices–poor ones. If they accept this fact, then they have to accept blame and be accountable.
Cheaters do not like being held accountable for their sinful choices.
They might go to pastoral care sessions or therapy sessions to complain about their marriage or partner. The purpose of such attendance can both be to distract others from their sinful behavior and to “justify” their plan to sinfully discard their spouse. Some even passive aggressively use those sessions to punish their spouse emotionally. It is sick.
However, all would better be served by coming back to seeing the choices made.
Honestly, it matters not how awful your spouse is or how miserable your marriage is. The choice to cheat is still a choice. There is no godly justification in making that choice.
Cheating is sin. God does not permit or encourage us to sin. Ever.
So true. Cheaters who blame their spouses for their sin, at heart, are really blaming God. Acceptance of responsibility for something negative is admitting guilt, and water from that well has a bitter taste that cheaters would rather have their victims drink.