“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin. How so? God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “Taking Adultery Seriously!”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.
I know that after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. -Acts 20:29, NIV What amazes me about the usual advice given to faithful spouses is how the advice ignores the abuse dynamic inherently involved in every situation where adultery has occurred. What’s the “usual advice?” You … Continue reading “Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.”
Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.
I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. -Matthew 10:35, NLT While the saying: “Blood is thicker than water” too often proves true when it comes to a cheater getting support from their (enabling) parents, it is not the way of true … Continue reading “Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.”
No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.
Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”
No Rest for the Wicked
So God’s rest is there for people to enter, but those who first heard this good news failed to enter because they disobeyed God. -Hebrews 4:6, NLT Rest and peace are not in the offering for those who choose disobedience over godliness. And those who truly are not bothered by their wicked deeds are the … Continue reading “No Rest for the Wicked”
Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!
“’Be still, and know that I am God….’” – Psalm 46:10b, NIV When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I … Continue reading “Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!”
“She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer
“She cheated. I’m not surprised. He should have paid her more attention.” -Outside Observer “He cheated on her. I’m not surprised. She really let herself go.” – Outside Observer These sort of observations are examples of victim blaming. JUST DON’T!!! Such Outside Observers are trading on the false notion that circumstances cause cheating as opposed … Continue reading ““She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer”
God did not author this! She did.
Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. – James 1:13, NKJV God did not author this! She did. An unfortunate consequence of allowing human freedom is allowing humans to make sinful choices. Those choices belong to … Continue reading “God did not author this! She did.”
Mistake Made In Re-Engaging
The Other Man was discovered. I wrote a letter to my (then) wife letting her know I would not tolerate her cheating anymore. She could either choose to work to prove to me that her cheating days were over, or she could expect me to terminate my relationship–friendship included–with her permanently. Obviously, she chose the … Continue reading “Mistake Made In Re-Engaging”
Keep going…
As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” -Romans 10:11, NIV This evening I had the privilege of helping my daughter get to sleep. She wanted me to lie in bed with her for a little while. So, I did. As I lay there, I was struck about how … Continue reading “Keep going…”