Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may … Continue reading “Pastoral Resource: Addressing Adulterous Situations”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Christian Divorce Support and Feeding “Miracle” Thinking
DivorceCare did me a great deal of good. I know I will forever be thankful for the people I met in the DivorceCare group while I was working in St. Cloud, MN. God definitely directed me to that community and group. As you can tell by visiting my RESOURCES page, I encourage people to find … Continue reading “Christian Divorce Support and Feeding “Miracle” Thinking”
It is a choice–bad one, yes–but still a choice.
I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: For … Continue reading “It is a choice–bad one, yes–but still a choice.”
Fellowship With Darkness?!
For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NIV Wicked or evil people may sometimes appear–or even be–good in some settings. This truth is well-illustrated in a recent interview with the 105-year-old secretary of Nazi Germany’s propagandist, Joseph Goebbels (see here). Adultery is … Continue reading “Fellowship With Darkness?!”
Forgiveness: A Drywall Parable
The Drywall Parable: Sam and Sue were having a disagreement over the color of the drapes. Sam got so overheated in the disagreement that he put his fist through the drywall next to Sue’s head. Later, he apologized for loosing his temper and punching a hole in the wall. Sue told him that she forgave … Continue reading “Forgiveness: A Drywall Parable”
Answering Well-Meaning Busybody Christians
“Sure, he cheated. But what was your part in all of that?” – Well-Meaning, Busybody Christian If you are a faithful spouse having gone through or going through a divorce, you likely have encountered this person: The Well-Meaning, Busybody Christian. Oblivious to how hurtful their comments and questions are, these individuals actually believe they are doing faithful spouses … Continue reading “Answering Well-Meaning Busybody Christians”
PSA: Christians, Stop Blaming Adultery Victims For Divorces!
And I saw that for all the adulteries of faithless Israel, I had sent her away and given her a writ of divorce, yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear; but she went and was a harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, NASB Is God to be blamed for His divorce of Israel here in Jeremiah … Continue reading “PSA: Christians, Stop Blaming Adultery Victims For Divorces!”
Cheater-speak: “Let’s not talk about that. It is in the past.”
“It is in the past.” – Cheater But is “it” really in the past? The effects and consequences of the cheating are very much in the present. -A late night “at the office.” -Another “business” trip. -That song on the radio. -A strange charge on the credit card. -An unknown phone number calling your spouse’s cell. … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Let’s not talk about that. It is in the past.””
Mailbag: Feeling torn between divorce and staying for the kids
I wonder if you could write on topic that deals with clash of emotions/feelings being a coward for allowing unfaithful partner back into our life without much consequences and at same time feeling like traitor to kids if choosing divorce instead. -Broken_Hurt Dear Broken_Hurt, It is not a betrayal of your children to act … Continue reading “Mailbag: Feeling torn between divorce and staying for the kids”
I knew, but didn’t…
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. -Psalm 139:16, NIV I start today’s post from this famous Psalm to make a point: Knowing is not the same thing as condoning or causing a behavior! God knew all of … Continue reading “I knew, but didn’t…”