Category: Trauma of adultery

Acceptance of reality

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein Now the Lord said to Samuel, “You have mourned long enough for Saul. I have rejected him as king of Israel, so fill your flask with olive oil and go to Bethlehem. -I Samuel 16:1a, NLT An important part … Continue reading “Acceptance of reality”

“What did you learn?” Crosses A Line

So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, NKJV I remember being asked a form of the question so often asked of faithful spouses. We are asked, “What did you … Continue reading ““What did you learn?” Crosses A Line”

Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!

When Cephas came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he stood condemned…The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy…. -Galatians 2:11, 13a, NIV Sometimes a rebuke is in order. Cephas, aka the Apostle Peter, needed a rebuke by the Apostle Paul for doing what he knew was wrong and leading others astray … Continue reading “Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!”

Stop Swigging Salt Water!

  So Moses brought Israel from the Red sea, and they went out into the wilderness of Shur; and they went three days in the wilderness, and found no water. And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called … Continue reading “Stop Swigging Salt Water!”

On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce

 “But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” -Matthew 5:32, NLT Part of the justification cheaters often use to blame-shift upon faithful spouses is the charge of being unhappy in the marriage. Let’s … Continue reading “On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce”

Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!

 Then the Pharisees called a meeting to plot how to kill Jesus. -Matthew 12:14, NLT For many years, I struggled with the idea of standing up for myself with medical professionals. The idea of “firing” one’s doctor did not seem like a real possibility for me. You see, I had grown up in a medical … Continue reading “Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!”

Pastors, Let’s NOT spiritually abuse faithful spouses!

“And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.” -Mark 9:42, KJV Spiritual abuse is all too common in Christian circles regarding situations involving infidelity. And it breaks my heart as … Continue reading “Pastors, Let’s NOT spiritually abuse faithful spouses!”

“Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV When an adulterous spouse feigns ignorance or confusion over the ending of their marriage, it is a ploy to avoid taking responsibility. This isn’t rocket science, folks! God does not command the ending of a marriage over adultery in the Old Testament to signal such sin is … Continue reading ““Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!”

An Ancient Evil

“Moria… You fear to go into those mines. The dwarves delved too greedily and too deep. You know what they awoke in the darkness of Khazad-dum… shadow and flame.” -Saruman (3:59 in clip above) As Americans, we often take an overly individualistic perspective on adultery.We fail to see that this sin impacts the community and … Continue reading “An Ancient Evil”