The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. -I Corinthians 7:4, KJV Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the … Continue reading “Dissecting “You’re NOT the boss of me!””
Category: Trauma of adultery
Review: “What I Wish Pastors Knew About Divorce” by Laura Petherbridge
Today, I am reviewing a blog post on “Family Matters.” It is by Laura Petherbridge who happens to be a speaker appearing in the Divorce Care® materials. The title of the post under consideration today is “What I Wish Pastors Knew About Divorce” (Click on title to be directed to the actual blog post). First, … Continue reading “Review: “What I Wish Pastors Knew About Divorce” by Laura Petherbridge”
It is a total rebuild, not a remodel!
“And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.” -Matthew 7:26-27, … Continue reading “It is a total rebuild, not a remodel!”
Freedom Through Believing The Truth
Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” -John 8:31-32, NKJV Much of my intense emotions and stridency surrounding my ex-wife cheating on and abandoning me came down to a … Continue reading “Freedom Through Believing The Truth”
Acceptance And Forgiveness
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him. -Genesis 37:25, NIV Much confusion surrounds the ideas of grief and forgiveness. I maintain that what is a … Continue reading “Acceptance And Forgiveness”
The Disorienting Power of the Confident Lie
“‘Now go and attack Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and do not spare them. But kill both man and woman, infant and nursing child, ox and sheep, camel and donkey.’” …. Then Samuel went to Saul, and Saul said to him, “Blessed are you of the Lord! I have performed the commandment … Continue reading “The Disorienting Power of the Confident Lie”
Obviously taken him or her back?!
“‘Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….’” -Hosea 2:2, KJV Obviously, take him back?! Much “Christian” teaching places such an emphasis on keeping marriages “intact” that they insist … Continue reading “Obviously taken him or her back?!”
The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving”
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV The pressure from Christians to appear forgiving towards adulterous spouses or exes is incredible. This pressure was enshrined in my ecclesiastical trial to retain my minister’s license. They probed around … Continue reading “The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving””
Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen
–A Book Review– The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church by (Pastor) David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen Much of my work on this blog is dealing with spiritual abuse surrounding infidelity discovery and its aftermath including divorce. The literature for Christian faithful spouses on … Continue reading “Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen”
Mine! A Toddler’s Mindset
“‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” -Mark 10:7-8, NIV “Mine!” A Toddler’s Mindset In Marriage One of the oddest dynamics that I have seen over and again while dealing with … Continue reading “Mine! A Toddler’s Mindset”