When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Personal Integrity”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Assumption of Choice
“Remember, I pray thee, who ever perished, being innocent? or where were the righteous cut off? Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity, and sow wickedness, reap the same.” – Eliphaz the Temanite in Job 4:7-8, KJV And it was so, that after the Lord had spoken these words unto Job, the Lord said to … Continue reading “Assumption of Choice”
Works All Things For Good…Nine Years Today
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. -Romans 8:28, KJV DM on August 19th, 2006 Today marks what would have been my nine year anniversary of being married to my (now) ex-wife. The strange thing is sadness … Continue reading “Works All Things For Good…Nine Years Today”
Is Divorce Minister Just Feeding Into Our Already Divorce-Permissive Society?
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” -Matthew 7:13-14, NIV Too Divorce Permissive? The Scripture’s take on divorce … Continue reading “Is Divorce Minister Just Feeding Into Our Already Divorce-Permissive Society?”
Parents of Divorcees And Disenfranchised Grief
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. – Job 2:13, NLT Adultery effects more than just the couple. So does divorce. After preaching, I was pulled aside and asked about … Continue reading “Parents of Divorcees And Disenfranchised Grief”
Even evil plans…
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.” -Genesis 50:20, NLT This verse is Joseph speaking to his fearful brothers after the death of their father. These are the same brothers who almost murdered him and … Continue reading “Even evil plans…”
Pity Or Empathy: Responding to the Divorced
Divorcee:“I’m divorced.” Christian church-goer:“I’m sorry. That’s too bad.” Sometimes, it is easy to feel like one has a scarlet “D” tattooed to one’s backside. Do I have to justify my divorce to every Christian to whom I reveal my marital status? I know some of us do not struggle with this. Some people seem bulletproof … Continue reading “Pity Or Empathy: Responding to the Divorced”
Guilty For NOT Confronting Adulterous Spouses
When I say to the wicked, ‘You wicked person, you will surely die,’ and you do not speak out to dissuade them from their ways, that wicked person will die for their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. But if you do warn the wicked person to turn from their ways and … Continue reading “Guilty For NOT Confronting Adulterous Spouses”
“I care about you…”
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you but not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading ““I care about you…””
“You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.”
“You sound angry. I really think you need to forgive your spouse for cheating on you. Forgive and forget. After all, Jesus did that for you.” -Christian “Friend” to Faithful Spouse The most hurtful pieces of advice usually have a hint of truth as does this one. We do need to forgive our spouses … Continue reading ““You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.””