Parents are not to be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their parents; each will die for their own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, NIV Even under the strict law of the Old Testament, God followers were taught the principle that one punishes only the one who commits the sin. … Continue reading “Blame Only Where Blame’s Due”
Category: Trauma of adultery
How Long Will You Mourn Over The Adulterous Spouse?
The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.” -I Samuel 16:1, NIV Before I … Continue reading “How Long Will You Mourn Over The Adulterous Spouse?”
Adultery Disembowels A Marriage
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. -Genesis 2:24, NLT “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’” And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his … Continue reading “Adultery Disembowels A Marriage”
What Then Is This Bleating I Hear?
Sometimes God rejects those who decide to sin rather than obey. This includes, apparently, even those He initially chooses. It is clear from Scripture that our choices have consequences when we choose sin over obedience to God. Here is the classical story about how King Saul fell from God’s favor. I find it instructive in … Continue reading “What Then Is This Bleating I Hear?”
If the Bible is clear that we are not to tolerate adultery, why then all the pressure to tolerate it in Christian marriages?
If the Bible is clear that we are not to tolerate adultery, “You shall not commit adultery.” – Exodus 20:14 (repeated in Deuteronomy 5:18), ESV (Ten Commandments) “If a man commits adultery with the wife of his neighbor, both the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.” – Leviticus 20:10, ESV “If a … Continue reading “If the Bible is clear that we are not to tolerate adultery, why then all the pressure to tolerate it in Christian marriages?”
Vulnerable In Grief
So be careful. If you are thinking, “Oh, I would never behave like that”—let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin. But remember this—the wrong desires that come into your life aren’t anything new and different. Many others have faced exactly the same problems before you. And no temptation … Continue reading “Vulnerable In Grief”
What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?
Answering the mail today: “What does forgiveness (acceptance) look like when your adulterous spouse or ex-spouse is unrepentant? (I’m speaking of this as a person divorced from a cheating ex-wife who never admitted the affair was wrong or asked for my forgiveness.. We have […] children in common, so aside from getting along for the … Continue reading “What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?”
The Affair As “A Cry For Help”
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives … Continue reading “The Affair As “A Cry For Help””
Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce
“Spiritual abuse occurs when our rightful spiritual freedom is taken away by people we regard as spiritual authorities.” –Taken from “Lesson 4: Healing of Spiritual Abuse,” School of Healing Prayer: Level II (workbook), Francis and Judith MacNutt Training Center, pp30. If divorce is not always sin as is clear in Scripture (e.g. Matthew 1:19, 5:32, 19:9, and … Continue reading “Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce”
But I Want To Stay Married!
At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I Want To Stay Married!”