Category: Trauma of adultery

When Hope Slips

31 “So then, forsake your worries! Why would you say, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For that is what the unbelievers chase after. Doesn’t your heavenly Father already know the things your bodies require?” -Jesus in Matthew 6:31-32, TPT Are you a “champion” worrier like me? More than … Continue reading “When Hope Slips”

What To Do With The In-Laws?

Today’s question is a sticky one and depends on circumstances greatly. I do not claim to have all the answers, and these are really just my opinions on the matter. However, I will pass along some advice I received from a seasoned evangelical pastor early in the dissolution of my first marriage. He told me … Continue reading “What To Do With The In-Laws?”

Is Adultery Ever Justifiable?

Is adultery ever justifiable in the eyes of God? Put another way: How bad a husband/wife does one have to be to justify adultery? Faithful Spouse Bad: Fail to do the laundry. Consequence: Wife cheats on husband. Faithful Spouse Bad: Fail to make a six figure salary. Consequence: Wife cheats on husband. Faithful Spouse Bad: … Continue reading “Is Adultery Ever Justifiable?”

Swarming Locusts Do Not Win

“The threshing floors shall be full of grain;     the vats shall overflow with wine and oil. I will restore to you the years     that the swarming locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter,     my great army, which I sent among you. “You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,     and praise the name … Continue reading “Swarming Locusts Do Not Win”

But he only cheated on you once…

Adulterers/adulteresses and their apologists say the cruelest of things: “I still love you. It only happened once. We all make mistakes. Can’t we just pretend it didn’t happen?” “It was only just one slip up. Why can’t you get past it?” “He just had one bad night. Why are you so hung up on one … Continue reading “But he only cheated on you once…”

Gratitude As Fortitude

Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, ESV As a hospice chaplain, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. … Continue reading “Gratitude As Fortitude”

Dear Faithful Spouses, It’s NOT About You!

Dear faithful spouses, It’s not about you. The adultery does not reveal your flaws or failures. Not at all. It does not even tell a story about the status of your marriage prior to this treacherous sin. It’s not about you, faithful spouse. But it does speak volumes about the adulterous spouse’s heart. I have tackled this issue … Continue reading “Dear Faithful Spouses, It’s NOT About You!”

Uriah Was Never Blamed

Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites…. Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan … Continue reading “Uriah Was Never Blamed”

Adultery and Church Discipline

“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still … Continue reading “Adultery and Church Discipline”