Certain moments stay with us for a lifetime. They are seared into our memories in technicolor. I will never forget a walk I had near my old condominium in the city. While I was walking, I was talking on the phone with my now ex-wife. The walk and conversation are still with me today–over a … Continue reading “Seared Moments”
Category: Cheating
No Other Man Drama
So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. -Proverbs 6:29, NKJV My Cheater loved the fantasy of being central and fought over for her affections. I know this as that was the take away for her from watching the awful movie, “Fireproof.” The scene of the husband fighting … Continue reading “No Other Man Drama”
Part II: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis
“…LOF retains FIREFLY to conduct an independent investigation into allegations of sexually abusive misconduct by BROWN in his association with FIRE SCHOOL 2001 – 2002 (which is defunct as a campus school), LOF (or any other ministry where BROWN held a leadership position). While the scope of the investigation is focused on the period … Continue reading “Part II: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis”
Happy Holy Saturday!
52 Going to Pilate, he asked for Jesus’ body. 53 Then he took it down, wrapped it in linen cloth and placed it in a tomb cut in the rock, one in which no one had yet been laid. -Luke 23:52-53, NIV Holy Saturday Within the Christian tradition, we recognize the day between Good Friday and Easter as … Continue reading “Happy Holy Saturday!”
Death of hope
I passed on to you what was most important and what had also been passed on to me. Christ died for our sins, just as the Scriptures said. -I Corinthians 15:3, NLT Death of hope They had all sorts of plans for Jesus. He was going to overthrow their oppressors, the Romans. Then he was … Continue reading “Death of hope”
Worse… so much worse!
Worse… so much worse! I remember early in my first marriage’s ending how I was hoping it was “just” an emotional affair. The whole not taking emotional affairs seriously was a problem I was yet to reckon with personally. The reality is the cheating is usually MUCH worse than what we see in the initial … Continue reading “Worse… so much worse!”
Top Christian Divorce Blog on Feedspot
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has been selected by Feedspot as a top 15 Christian Divorce blog and website (link here). I am grateful for such an award and exposure. The hope is that more people in need of a Christian voice on such matters will find their ways to these electronic shores for hope … Continue reading “Top Christian Divorce Blog on Feedspot”
So called “justifications”
“We were already divorced in our hearts,” says Cheater. “Our marriage has had problems for years,” says Cheater. “I’ve been unhappy in our marriage for a long time,” says Cheater. Cheaters accept lies to “justify” their sinful behavior. This is what is at the root of the problem for Cheaters. They have bought into lies. … Continue reading “So called “justifications””
Tainted Fruit
18 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. 19 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV What do we do with the good things that we gained through our marriage to our Cheater?! It feels like tainted fruit, honestly. Such gifts are … Continue reading “Tainted Fruit”
Need to preach about righteous divorces
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “Need to preach about righteous divorces”