Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Adultery is a culmination of sinful choices. I think it is important to understand that we are not dealing with one sin alone when it comes to … Continue reading “Poor, sinful choices.”
Category: Cheating
Believe it. THAT devious!
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Yes, THAT devious! I doubt I am the only one who struggled to believe my (now) ex-wife was that devious. It is kind of baked into a healthy marriage that we give each other the benefit of the … Continue reading “Believe it. THAT devious!”
PSA: Partial truths = lies
So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. -Ephesians 4:25, NLT Public Service Announcement: Partial Truths Are Fully Lies! This is a very common tactic of caught cheaters. They will confess to the point where the evidence would make them look ridiculous but … Continue reading “PSA: Partial truths = lies”
Will be found out!
But if you fail to keep your word, then you will have sinned against the LORD, and you may be sure that your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23, NLT (emphasis mine) What amazes me is how cheaters seem to believe their sins and treachery are beyond discovery by faithful spouses! To be fair, … Continue reading “Will be found out!”
Preferring to be wrong
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world NOT to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “Preferring to be wrong”
Not gonna fix the marriage, though.
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God… -Romans 3:23, KJV While it is wise and admirable to work on one’s own sins, issues, and shortcomings, I believe it is important to be clear about one thing: Faithful Spouse, “fixing” yourself cannot fix your adultery-ravaged marriage. Despite what “Christian” books and … Continue reading “Not gonna fix the marriage, though.”
Pet Peeve: Breaking one’s word.
Lord, who may dwell in your sacred tent? Who may live on your holy mountain? …who keeps an oath even when it hurts, and does not change their mind…. Psalm 15:1, 4b, NIV My grandfather, Leverne, was an old school, North Dakotan farmer. His word was his bond. It was a word and a handshake. That is … Continue reading “Pet Peeve: Breaking one’s word.”
Fact: Cheaters flunked marriage.
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV (from The Ten Commandments) Fact: Cheaters are marriage flunkies. One of the most basic lessons in Christian marriage is adhering to this classic and consistent prohibition regarding sex with marriage outsiders. Cheaters have–spectacularly, in some cases–flunked this most basic of marriage lessons. Yet for some reason, … Continue reading “Fact: Cheaters flunked marriage.”
Carl Lentz–disgraced former Hillsong pastor–in the news again
Carl Lentz, former Hillsong pastor, is in the news these days because he and his wife, Laura Lentz, participated in a FX and HULU documentary “The Secrets of Hillsong.” Lentz was caught in an “affair”–more on this later–that eventually resulted in his termination from the church. He and his wife are still married. This “affair” … Continue reading “Carl Lentz–disgraced former Hillsong pastor–in the news again”
Where are all the “Adultery Prevention Seminars?”
Where are the “Christian Adultery Prevention Seminars?” Sure, there are plenty of “affair-proofing” marriage seminars. But I am talking about the sort of seminars where pastors talk about adultery and taking personal responsibility for one’s own sins. Instead of talking about the horrors of divorce–like pretty much every pre-marital book I read does–why not talk … Continue reading “Where are all the “Adultery Prevention Seminars?””