Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding: -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “Disconnected Professions”
Category: Cheating
Common Evangelical Statement About Husbands
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…. -Ephesians 5:25, NLT When I hear this verse cited by Evangelicals, I shudder internally. This is a highly abused text. Evangelicals often use this as a proof text to shame husbands. Obviously, this text teaches … Continue reading “Common Evangelical Statement About Husbands”
Adultery is NOT a footnote!
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Adultery is NOT a footnote!”
Loophole? OT Polygamy.
“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.” -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Loophole? OT Polygamy.”
Removal of ring tells you something
When a cheater goes on vacation and removes her wedding ring, you can be sure she is emotionally unfaithful (and likely more). The wedding ring minds us and others that we are married. It is a symbol that helps signal socially that the person is unavailable. A person choosing to remove this article and “forget” … Continue reading “Removal of ring tells you something”
Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce
Recently, Chump Lady posted on Doug Weiss’ divorce and then sudden engagement to Joni Lamb (of the Christian Daystar broadcasting fame). Dr. Doug Weiss treats “sex addiction” and claims to be in recovery from sex addiction for over 30 years. While this is important information to know for context, this post is not so much … Continue reading “Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce”
Cheaters devalue.
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. -Isaiah 61:7, NIV Cheaters devalue. They will run you down, figuratively speaking. The whole point is to make it seem like … Continue reading “Cheaters devalue.”
Friendship with God forged through fire
When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. -Isaiah 43:2, NLT What makes me so devoted to following Jesus? Like numerous … Continue reading “Friendship with God forged through fire”
Cheater-Speak: “I can’t keep pretending…”
“I can’t keep pretending everything is fine,” says Cheater. What this really means is the Cheater is tired of hiding their contempt for the faithful spouse. They are declaring it is too much. So, they will now display their contempt openly. The cheater has no real problem with pretending as long as it advantages them. They … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I can’t keep pretending…””
Privilege says, “Move on!”
“You need to move on,” says the Privileged. When something as traumatic as a surviving the adultery and divorce from a cheater happens, you are forever marked. Over time, I have found the scars fade. However, they will always be there. People pushing for one to “move on” are pushing denial of these scars. It … Continue reading “Privilege says, “Move on!””